00:00 – 04:51 Intros of us, of our guest David Amerland, and our special back-up friend, Melanie Hall.
4:51 – 10:05 David begins with a mental game to show why we need trust to lead to understanding
11:16 – 17:30 David responds to trust questions by Heidi: example: VW. vs. Toyota
17:30 – 22:25 Moving toward transparency? In the “we” space we know instinctively who to trust but in the I/them space, as between cultures, trust becomes not so ”instinctive”. Likewise on the web.
22:25 – 27:18 The net vs. old brand loyalty and new contexts, trust requires mutual vulnerability and symmetry. example of Amazon vs, Italy and a little shop in Perth in Australia.
27:20 – 29:53 Changing loyalties among different demographic groups and various social media
29:55 – 31:27 Origins of the cultures of Facebook and Google and the consequences thereof. “On Google+…the data is yours. But with Facebook you can’t close your account, they just suspend it and your data is theirs.
31:27 – 32:53 Young people are not naive about the security of various platforms
32:55 – 34:18 More news about the world warps our idea of how “bad” things are. But we are planting seeds of trust around the word.
34:20 – 37:36 “There may be mistrust but mistrust doesn’t mean a complete absence of trust.” David explains.
37:36 – 41:53 Trust from relationship from communication. Works both personally and in business. Measure trust with a trustometer..and then more seriously and all parties are in a fluid flux continually.
42:10 – 49:20 Back to instincts and why trust is so hard to maintain. VW again. German rationality vs. cultural sensitivity and perceptions.With a global culture you have to overlook cultural differences and look for cultural similarities.
49:41 – 55:05 Melanie takes a turn and applies trust to current politicians – especially ONE politician – and David responds that transparency is not enough, we need to see actions, motives, intent, context and a look at history and what we can learn in retrospect.
55:05 – 58:47 Final observations, takeaways, announcements, thank you’s and goodbye’s.
2:20 Is Social Media included in the concept of Integral Relationships by Martin Ucik?
2:45 MS: people connect for falling in love – and Internet is a way for doing that
3:50 contact requests on social media
4:50 How Heidi handles contact requests on social media
6;20 on social media you can find people of common ground
7:05 What is an Integral Relationship?
7:30 Looking through the integral lense on any relationship with the “4 Quadrants”
9:00 Typical types of relationships
10:02 Integral couple – masculine and feminine balance
10:41 Referral to David Deida and Ken Wilber
11:20 Intro to Integral and Ken Wilber: Book: Integral Vision
12:15 Integral Theory gives you a framework
12:35 Old fashioned social media: Penthouse and sending letters towards today: how would people connect? Words, visual, psychological
15:23 Love Languages – which one is better for connection on social media?
16:30 Enneatypes are also very important: attraction-, social-, security type. Experience with online dating
17:40 Why would you use social media as a primary strategy to find a partner? Heidi’s experience
19:30 A unique situation!?
20:56 Don’t put a sexy photo on social media if you want a real partner! (Heidi) and why I don’t like dating sites
23:28 Martin S: It is about Intent. 2001 in UK first social media site to connect with historic ex friends of college times
25:00 2007 Facebook opened its doors to non-students, city based, MS was one of the first there – “Are you on Facebook?
26:10 What is your intent? Accordingly you act on social media as you know the steps to change the relationship I am already having with someone – like in real life
27:05 The signal of attention is understood as a signal of intent
27:36 Social Media and Video tools have changed the way of getting to know each other
28:35 MU Before internet we had a very limited access to people – versus the overflow and sense of abondance of possibiliites of today which makes choosing more difficult and a lot of people of other social strada or interests
31:00 the cosmic address and compatability: Integral lense important to navigate the internet and ask the right questions to prequalify potential people
33:00 why there are so many singles and short term serial monogamy
33:50 MS Is the nature of relationships evolving because of technology?
34:50 the nature of relationships is totally different now business wise
35:15 MU it is all about expectations – agreements
36:42 Is there such a thing as a soul mate?
40:42 MU addresses a question of Zuzu
43:56 MU addresses a question about how soon we can recognize the levels of consciousness? Some good advice what to ask a potential partner
46:00 compatibily – checking out before the investing energy?
47:46 Listen to people what and how they speak and how the body language is.
48:49 MU About body language
49:56 The first impression
50:15 MU addresses the question of Krystin
51:30 avoiding physical contact by overcompensating by spending time on Internet
53:01 Naira from Baku joins the conversation
53::40 A testimonial for Martin’s book and how Naira found a person
54:20 Erotica shyness and situation in a Moslem country and in Russia
55:40 Dinner together via Skype
56:10 Mark: Meeting each other in person is just the beginning
56:50 Relationship as inter being and inter becoming
57:50 Commitments and agreements before entering in a committed relationship