Martin Ucik – Falling In Love With Someone Good for You.

January 15, 2016

00:00 – 04:20 Technical problems: a semi-graceful recovery (fun to watch but it gets better)!

04:20 – 07:00 Introducing Martin Ucik.. and some basic points about falling in love.

07:00 – 13:02 Making 3 basic distinctions: infatuation, psychological connections, and developing a relationship out of friendship.

13:02 – 14:50 Pitfalls of instant hormonal relationships and why do we fall OUT of love?

14:50 – 16:11 It depends on which of the 3 kinds of love we’re talking about.

17:20 – 19:38 Problems when people come from different levels of development which affect what choices are available to each in the relationship.

20:00 – 21:45 What would “integral” people do? Three parameters: intimacy, passion, commitment.

21:45 – 29:54 Levels (similar to the chakras) of “integral” and what (and how) to relate with a partner on each level. Also on their vocabulary.

29:54 – 32:15 Advice to men about sharing feelings: sometimes it’s better to share them with a friend or a professional, if the woman can’t hold those “vulnerable” feelings he expresses.

32:15 – 34:16 Subtle expression of emotions usually comes online at pluralistic “green.”

34:16 – 37:14 Beyond green – an “authentic” way to express life purpose, which may require living without a partner, but may not.

39:00 – 43:52 How to overcome the difficulties of growth; defining self-worth and identity beyond the qualities of the partner.

43:52 – 46:39 “Transcend and include” means we don’t stop all the contents of earlier stages, but we learn healthier ways to express them – right up to relationships as a spiritual practice.

46:40 –  49:10 Our efforts toward peace at home as part of creating peace on earth.

50:00 – Summary from Martin, a quick rerun, and an addendum from Heidi.

54:01 – Find Martin at for news and further info and links.

54:40 – Don’t forget the Blab afterward at:

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Christiane Pelmas – The Role Of Sexuality In Human Life And How We Can Use It To Grow Our Relationships.

January 22, 2016

00:00 – 3:40 Introductions

04:10 – Varied responses to our publicity and first question: What is sexuality?Christiane responds, “Generative energy that creates form out of chaos.” She explains….

06:62 – Erotic intelligence as one of Wilber’s/Gardner’s lines of intelligence?  Perhaps the primary intelligence that has allowed us to move beyond simple survival.

9:40 – Why do we have such a problem with sexuality? Religion, money, etc. “Our culture has evolved to be anti-human.”

12:25 – Are we moving toward humanization of our culture?  Christiane thinks so, of necessity.

14:00 – How basic and preoccupied we are with sexuality for very good reasons, not only out of ignorance.

15:45 – Do good relationships and good sexuality reinforce each other? Chemistry and more…

17:35 – Creating relationships “so that” we can become mystically poised to offer ourselves in all our activities for a better world.

18:50 – Is emotional intimacy necessary for a sexual relationship, for example, pornography?

22:00 – Pornography can create a feeling of wellness and safety, which backfires on us.

22:30 – 24:00 Are romance novels like pornography for women?  No, not quite!

24:00 – 26:07 Lack of caring / touching for boys after ages 5 -7.

26:07 – 28:23 How that works for girls and the outcome orientation it induces.

28:24 – Big question from a male watcher: How can males relate to women affectionately?

30:06 – 33:48 Slow down! Even though it may be unpleasant sometimes. Sensate, focus, etc.

34:12 – Presence (mindfulness, embodiment) is at the core!

35:50 – What if orgasm isn’t the end of sex, if it continues past that? And how do we get there?

37:00 – How long is your menu? It’s infinite!

38:50 – Play! Its importance and women’s (especially) changing map of sexuality.

40:14 – 42:02 MANopause!

42:02 – 46:13 The stages of sexuality over our lifetimes.

47:17 – 49:16 The later years –  what’s coming?  Deep, almost rumbling, earthquakes…

49:16 – 51:40 The denial of our down-and-dirty humanness in favor of “transcendence.” Savoring both the up AND the down.

51:41 – Blab connections (, some personal notes, how to reach us, how to reach Christiane:,,

TS Blab: Sexuality in the various levels of development.

4:35 Earlier stages of humanity.

6:08 Sexuality as a developmental line?

7:32 How children perceive sex of older people, especially their parents.

8:07 We don’t yet have schemes for lines; we are new to this way of seeing things.

9:55 We are lacking the vocabulary.

11.16 Allergy or addiction.

12:19 The quadrants.

13:18 First sexuality.

14:27 Sexuality in magenta/ tribal consciousness.

17:10 Red level – power and rape.

18:36 Rape in the blue level.

21:00 Do not enjoy sex!

21:38 Sexuality in orange.

24:10 Sexuality in green.

25:30 Being born into the culture.

28:38 Being gay.

31:00 Sexual, creative, and spiritual impulse.

31:50 Conscious growth.

32:45 What comes beyond green?

33:30 Emotional intelligence and behavioral patterns.

39:00 Sexual role play.

42:57 The red level: difference men/women and gay people.

46:44 Eroticism at any moment.

48:05 The expression of sexuality.

48:54 Spirituality and sex.

50:06 Relationship to sex.

Dr. Keith Witt – Loving Completely – How We Can Learn To Keep Our Intimate Relationships Alive

January 29, 2016

00:00 – 03: 27 Introductions of ourselves and Dr. Keith

04:25 – 10:37 How come we repeat our relationship mistakes?

10:44 – 16:03 Unconditional love? Keith thinks not. Attunement is necessary.  “Be aware with acceptance and caring intent.” Self observation.

16:03 – 24:00 How can we learn acceptance? What about shame? Developmental stages.

24:00 – 25:25 “Return to Love.” Poking perfectionism and what attracts a man.

25:25 – 29:33 Clarity, changing old habits.

29:37 – 31:30 Two kinds of commitment: “I’m going to stay with you as long as …” and “I’m going to do whatever it takes to make our love work.”

31:30 – “That’s why there’s no Unconditional Love.” Love becomes ever more demanding as we grow.

35:03 – 36:11 “A tantric process that takes us both to unity with God and with each other.”

36:10 – 39:40 What about monogamy?  Monogamy promotes intimacy and depth.

39:40 – 43:54 Heidi notes that love is hard work – the opposite of what we hear in music, films, etc. How can you [Keith] inspire people to do that work?  Non-violent communication, etc.

43:55 – 45:44 It require effort!  But also play!

45:44 – 49:07 Generational changes, ignorance, and responsibility. How Keith got started.

49:07 – 54:05 Mark asks about the future of love. Keith responds.

54:05 – 59:10 Winding down remarks, asking Margherita for her takeaways.  Margherita made a drawing!  She’s not single, she’s whole!

59:47 – Last words by Mark, Keith, and Heidi.

0:44 Joachim Berggren about looking at one’s own part when in conflict.

2:01 Northern Europeans especially interested in this topic? Answer by Margherita.

3:51 Hans Kalben joins the room.

4:25 Henrik Wredmark joins the room and talks about his experience hearing Dr.Keith Witt speak.

5:15 Kids are getting better at relating and communicating.

6:00 Intergenerational relationships: children today can talk to their parents.

7:10 Relationships in the Integral world.

8:15 Margherita’s Christmas in Sweden with her family.

8:38 Monogamy – Hans Kalben.

9: 55 Growing in different directions.

11:00 A life not spent in a long-term monogamous relationship is not wasted…

11:50 Relationships give a gratis kick to personal development.

12.14 A question from the audience about an intimacy that lessoned after 24 years.

16:10 The drawing by Margherita.

17:40 A comment from the audience about friendship.

18:30 Integral relationships: we are our own best friends.

19:44 Joachim’s contribution, breakup and difficulty, commitment for future relationship.

21:00 Cultural requests in relationships – how can I be in a close relationship?

22:38 Become aware of patterns and the teachings in relationships.

23:24 Preview of next session with Katherine Woodward Thomas on Conscious Uncoupling.

24:28 A relationship beyond your wildest dreams needs dedication and effort.

25:40 Margherita on men’s way of expressing and communicating.

27:00 About playing.

28:40 Candy Javier Sakai joins from Tokyo and gives her idea about how to keep relationships alive.

30:30 Trust independent from the culture you are living in.

31:00 Japanese are conservative – only the youngest generation has changed. Life is different in Japan, and trust is necessary for a relationship.

34:32 Foreigners in Japan/ intimacy: Let’s go back to old school!

35: 20 Japanese women want blond guys; Japanese men want Russian women. Stereotypes and Prince Charming.

39:34 Levels in a relationship.

40:25 Question from the audience: What about black men in Japan?

40:45 Black men are romantic, and that is the catch for Japanese women.

41:40 What do foreigners find in Japan?

42:58 Coming back to Integral: diversity in the cultures.

44::25 Sexuality – need to know the people first?

45:00 It’s not consistency – always diversity (Candy).

45:38 Intimate relationships – how to keep them alive?

47:00 It is not that relationships just HAPPEN to stay alive.

47:30 Relationships accelerate your growth (Hans Kalben).

49:00 If you think you are enlightened, just go and visit your family for Thanksgiving.

49:15 Primary source for relationships is your motivation (Candy).

49:54 Dr.Keith Witt knows the human mind after 55,000 therapy sessions as a psychotherapist.

50:25 Hans: “The higher you go, the more conditional the love becomes.” Levels of development.

52:00 About tech challenges – the help of the universe!

Katherine Woodward Thomas – Conscious Uncoupling – The art of separation in close relationships.

February 5, 2016

00:00 Introductions

03:35 – 04:54 Heidi’s history with “Calling in the One” and Katherine’s journey.

04:54 – 07:27 “Conscious Uncoupling” as a precursor of “Calling in the One.”

07:27 – Heidi talks about how it began for us, and how it became so much more.

09:05 – Katherine’s early experiences: finding God, coming home to an empty apartment.

11:26 -12:58 Setting an intention and going within to find the barriers.

12:58 – And still we slowly drifted apart; the mission queen.

TEASER? 14:23 – 16:06 What would a “conscious separation” be like, effects on children.

17:30 – 18:26 The happily-ever-after model was created when the average life span was less than 40.

19:21 – 20. 33 How can we stay “in love” and together when mates develop at different speeds?

20:33 – 21:41 Partners being at different levels is NORMAL for long-term unions.

22:03 – 24:13 Biology conspires AGAINST breakups in general, from soul mates to soul hates!

24:32 – 25:15 “Conscious Uncoupling” and the evolution of relationships in the current context.

26:52 – 28:37 “Marriage has changed more in the last 30 years than in the 3,000 years before.”

29:09 – 29:52 At any time in history when women were on an equal power level with men, divorce rates were about the same as they are today.

29:52 – 30:33 Even the most conscious couple can become negative, stingy, etc. in the face of a breakup.

31:23 – 33:27 The Five Steps that people need for a “conscious uncoupling.” The why of it.

33:27 – 34:52 Step 1: Navigating emotions toward positive change: reclamation of anger.

34:52 – 36:51 Step 2: Reclamation of Power, because we often feel powerless; see your 3%.

36:51 – 39:28 Step 3: The meta pattern, usually from a very young age, through you, not to you.

40:18 – 45:41 Awakening from “The Story” that lives in the body – the True You Awakening.

45:42 – 46:15 Step 4: Re-engaging with your circumstances.

46:15 – 47:15 Step 5: Re-engaging beyond the personal process, with your community.

47:46 – 49:06 What if the partner doesn’t go along with the program?

50:33 – 51:12 How to get in touch with Katherine:,, and

51:53 – 53:13 Margherita’s takeaway: her identification with the whole process.

53:31 – 54:45 Katherine’s last words: getting more conscious and getting more command over our inner landscape – the work of our times.

54:45 Thank you’s and goodbye’s.

Participants: Heidi Hornlein, Mark Davenport, Margherita Crystal Lotus, Cristina Sundström, Hans Kalben, Rayne Dowell


1:18 Hans joins the conversation.

1:48 How do we separate without pain?

2:01 Hans talks about his life.

3:08 Willing to question the beliefs.

3:28 Single for many years – desire to move into a relationship?

4:26 Original source wounding –  patterns from childhood.

5:30 The longing for THE ONE.

7:10 It is up to you!

7:40 Assuming full responsibility for oneself.

9:00 Being in a relationship is the school for development.

10:10 Mark: the experiences are not wasted.

10:20 Heidi: about projections.

12:05 Catch oneself when the projection begins.

13:20 Don’t begin a relationship when you notice projection?

14:25 Margherita’s is not single but whole.

14:56 Dancing the paradox.

15:30 Enjoy living with yourself!

16:00 Cristina.

17:15  Our first relationship is with ourselves!

18:15 Start a relationship as friends.

18:50 Calling in the ONE.

19:05 Conscious uncoupling before looking for a new relationship.

20:34 The One is not what you think it is…

21:30 Relationships don’t need to last the whole life.

22:08 Cristina about separation.

23:45 If you give too much space to the other… establishing the rules.

25:55 Rayne about what we were taught: to look outside of ourselves.

26:24 Sit back and decide for yourself WHO you are.

27:25 Being whole and happy – singles.

28:36 Pioneering these new types of relationship.

29:28 Young people are growing with a different consciousness than we older ones (H+M).

30:00 The assumptions of previous generations.

30:34 Cats enter the scene.

31:32 We don’t have the language yet for the new things/consciousness now emerging.

32:35 Rayne tells about herself: intuition and getting to know yourself and your own gifts – going through the wall.

35:45 Painful breakthrough.

36:15 Comments: Women have duties towards men in Moslem cultures.

37:00 Liberation from these duties in Western cultures.

38:00 Men, get prepared!

38:22 The duty goes both ways – the liberation is for both!

39:24 Traditional worldview also in European countries.

40:18 Integral Map.

41:32 Why development is NOT “going down the drain” – things become more complicated, but….

42:30 With the responsibility for our own choices comes also the responsibility for our mistakes – but more options become available.

43:35 Heidi’s experience when the partner wants you to stay little.

44:20 Going along with the norm is more comfortable, but not authentic.

45:53 Quality over quantity.

47:00 The road less travelled – but so much MORE.

48:00 Thinking about oneself in a different way is harder than changing views about others.

48:40 Our biology is hardwired: paradox between wanting to stay the same and be curious.

49:30 Exploring humanity by exploring ourselves = next step for humanity right now.

50:20 A product of this point in history.

51:00 What if world conditions change?

51:45 Development goes 2 steps up and 1 ¾ back again…

52:00 Question about 7-year cycles.

52:35 Translation and transformation.

Jeff Salzman and Kelly Bearer – Same sex relationships – Is there a difference?

February 12, 2016

00.00 – 04:10: Audio track intro we added later, because the original track dropped out for some unknown reason.

04.10 – 5:02 We pick up with Jeff as he recounts his journey into Integral thought.

05:02 – 15:13 Jeff gets into the history of same sex relationships.

15:13 – 21:25 Kelly continues with her history – with lots of shame and guilt.

21:25 – 22:20 Jeff describes “the heartbreaking part of being gay in our generation.”

22:20 – 25:40 How did you survive that part?  What happened? Jeff: No shame! Kelly: A slow process, even after moving to Boulder.

25:40 – 28:41 Difficulties even in Integral circles; “just so straight!” And how it got better!

29:01 – 34:50 What is different/not different in same sex relationships? No need for birth control!

35:00 – 36:40 Juicy polarities remain! The greatest engine of evolution is boredom!

37:06 – 37:40 One thing that still pisses Jeff off.

38:54 – 40:54 Squashing polarities as a stage we go through – and acceptance.

40:54 – 43:14 Where is help for kids available? “Them” as a movement.

43:14 – 45:50 Cultural evolution, Deadpool, how kids dress, the Ax commercial.

45:50 – 47:47 What’s next?  What’s still taboo? Jeff, “Everybody gets to be who they are…”

47:59 – 48:56 We confess our love for Jeff’s presence and manner, and he gives thanks.
48:56 – 49:38 The Integral European Conference in Hungary in May, etc. Thank you’s.

49:38 – 50:58 Kelly’s “what’s next”: bigger containers for exploration and new contractions for new rules.

51:40 – 53:54 Margherita’s observations from “outside”: “Normal” people don’t get to explore sexuality as much as you (Jeff & Kelly) do! All those who are different.

53:54 – 54.43 Good byes (amidst us falling out again).

0:12 Jeff Salzman and The Daily Evolver

0:24 The Wisdom Factory Community (

1:50 Hans meets Jeff the first time live on video and talks to him.

2:15 The story of Hans regarding Integral in his life.

3:20 The importance of talking to others about what we read in the books.

5:00 Talking about the show: Same Sex Relationships.

5:25 How is the discovery of being gay? Hans was lucky!

6:20 From not liking men to discovering the identity of being gay.

9:35 How is it in Germany as a culture? Is it like in the US?

10:15 It is easier in Germany to be gay?

11:15 Evolution is a matter of time.

11:58 Eros is on our side.

12:06 The more Integral, the more the Universe appears to be friendly – we can have trust and faith in it.

13:00 Other ways of living and being, which had been suppressed in the past.

15:05 Topic: Refugees.

15:20 In Berlin, an Asylum will open for LGBT refugees.

16:45 How are the refugees doing? Especially with the extra challenge?

17:20 Being gay is a reason for asking for asylum.

18:05 Feelings of liberation and safety – and overwhelm.

20:00 That’s what I love about Integral.

20:42 Social work with the AQAL approach.

21:18 A marker of Integral conciousness – you can be friends with everybody.

22:19 Jeff invites Hans on his show to talk about the refugee topic and about Germany.

23:07 The Wisdom Factory; our mission: bringing people together.

23:30 The greater We-space – enhanced by video.

24:20 Being authentic means that we don’t need to “shave and get out of our pajamas,” but just be as we are!

26:41 Meeting live – you can support us by sharing the events, bringing people in!

27:52 Please support our work!

28:50 About removing guilt.

29:25 Integral shows how guilt was important in bringing people from the egocentric to the traditional stage of development.

30:35 When we have integrated responsibility for our actions, then we can let go of guilt.

31:38 Dr.Keith Witt on the evolution of shame and guilt.

32:38 Critique of the “green” teachings – everybody is like us (or should be).

33:54 Overcome versus integrate and transform.

35:00 Something healthy about being able to feel shame.

35:40 Authenticity.

36:00 So much shame in same sex relationships.

38:10 We become relatively free. We don’t get rid of our conditioning, but we learn to not be dominated by it.

38:30 We cannot resolve these questions with the mind.

37:20 The topic is not the topic – it is about healing.

40:10 When we come into this life, we choose the area to work on: we overcome, transform, and integrate what we have learned.

41:56 We are all born with our baggage – talking about the quadrants: where we can experiment and grow.

43:20 Digging into shadow can create extra pressure; it can become an illusion and not authenticity.

44:10 Catch yourself and look at it in a playful, humble way.

44:23 Become a good parent to your younger selves.

44:50 A song: ooops. I did it again.

David Amerland

Why trust is essential in human relationships, at home and in business.

February 26, 2016

00:00 – 04:51 Intros of us, of our guest David Amerland, and our special back-up friend, Melanie Hall.  

4:51 – 10:05 David begins with a mental game to show why we need trust to lead to understanding

11:16 – 17:30 David responds to trust questions by Heidi: example: VW. vs. Toyota

17:30 – 22:25 Moving toward transparency? In the “we” space we know instinctively who to trust but in the I/them space, as between cultures, trust becomes not so ”instinctive”.  Likewise on the web.

22:25 – 27:18 The net vs. old brand loyalty and new contexts, trust requires mutual vulnerability and symmetry. example of Amazon vs, Italy and a little shop in Perth in Australia.

27:20 – 29:53  Changing loyalties among different demographic groups and various social media

29:55 – 31:27 Origins of the cultures of Facebook and Google and the consequences thereof.  “On Google+…the data is yours.  But with Facebook you can’t close your account, they just suspend it and your data is theirs.

31:27 – 32:53 Young people are not naive about the security of various platforms

32:55 – 34:18 More news about the world warps our idea of how “bad” things are.  But we are planting seeds of trust around the word.

34:20 – 37:36 “There may be mistrust but mistrust doesn’t mean a complete absence of trust.” David explains.

37:36 – 41:53 Trust from relationship from communication.  Works both personally and in business. Measure trust with a trustometer..and then more seriously and all parties are in a fluid flux continually.

42:10 – 49:20 Back to instincts and why trust is so hard to maintain. VW again. German rationality vs. cultural sensitivity and perceptions.With a global culture you have to overlook cultural differences and look for cultural similarities.

49:41 – 55:05 Melanie takes a turn and applies trust to current politicians – especially ONE politician – and David responds that transparency is not enough, we need to see actions, motives, intent, context and a look at history and what we can learn in retrospect.

55:05 – 58:47 Final observations, takeaways, announcements, thank you’s and goodbye’s.

TS Blab on Trust /Amerland  

00:00 Welcome and short overview over what was talked about in the main show

4:02 VW in German has lost trustworthiness – ask Hans in Germany

5:45 Meloney: It will take years to built up trust again

7:15 A challenge fo my German identity (Heidi)

8:15 Now nothing is any more produced in one only country

8:45 Back to trust – levels of development and type dependent

11:20 Trust and expectations in context

12:40 Less deception when you look from an integral perspective – the world becomes more friendly

13:50 “Speaking through the flower” – hinting as a communication desaster

15:50 Saying everything instead of hinting is not a guarantee for good communication. Transparency is not the total indicator for trust

17:25 Berlusconi in Italy: You see what you get, so you would be able to chose (if you could see it)

19:00 We can forgive betrayal more of brands than of people

20:08 Initial trust situations in early childhood

22:34 trajectory of close relationships

24:00 What is your motivation for being transparent?

26:00 Importance of timeing of transparency

28:10 You are not in control of what others do with the information you gave them

29:10 When the groom doesn’t show up for the wedding

31:03 Henrik: it is about trusting yourself

33:25 the importance of types (enneagram) and education

35:35 Roy Montero appears for a Monologue

37:32 Mark addresses the “black-and-white” perspective

39:10 Hans: Starting out with trust or with a little suspicion?

40:40 Building relationships quick – Heidi stresses the importance of being able to SEE the speaker

42:30 Seeing people is a different way of communication

44:42 Heidi’s response to Roy: the voice is important, but body language adds to the communication

46:46 Trust in connection with attachment styles

49:00 Meloney asks If you cannot trust yourself you cannot trust others so easily: as you know how you manipulate yourself…… if you did untrustworthy things you don’t trust others 10 times more

50:30 Criminals are very suspicious

52:04 Time heals all wounds?

53:36 We need to tell ourselves a different story

54:50 Self fulfilling prophesy – Hans’s experience as a social worker

56:19 Comment: time destorts details

57:50 Henrik: we try to avoic danger – and add to our suffering

58:33 Mark in favour of time: life experiences come when they come

1:00:00 The decision that things won’t happen any more is not enough: The door opener for Mark: Ken WIlber and Integral Theory seeing the past in a different light

1:02:25 Heidi: Did I waste my time in the past?

1:03:05 Does relocation help? – Heidi’s story to go to Italy and Hans tells his story

1:05:51 Drug addiction – you take your patterns with you….

1:08:00 You can see yourself as fresh, the open moment

1:10:25 You can look at yourself with their eyes

1:11:20 Coming together in family – the old habits – release your expectations

1:14:58 We are co-creating the conversation

Martin Shervington & Martin Ucik – Social Media and Intimate Relationships.

February 19, 2016

2:20     Is Social Media included in the concept of Integral Relationships by Martin Ucik?

2:45     MS: people connect for falling in love – and Internet is a way for doing that

3:50     contact requests on social media

4:50     How Heidi handles contact requests on social media

6;20     on social media you can find people of common ground

7:05     What is an Integral Relationship?

7:30     Looking through the integral lense on any relationship with the “4 Quadrants”

9:00     Typical types of relationships

10:02   Integral couple – masculine and feminine balance

10:41   Referral to David Deida and Ken Wilber

11:20   Intro to Integral and Ken Wilber: Book: Integral Vision

12:15   Integral Theory gives you a framework

12:35   Old fashioned social media: Penthouse and sending letters towards today: how would people connect? Words, visual, psychological

15:23   Love Languages – which one is better for connection on social media?

16:30   Enneatypes are also very important: attraction-, social-, security type. Experience with online dating

17:40   Why would you use social media as a primary strategy to find a partner? Heidi’s experience

19:30   A unique situation!?

20:56   Don’t put a sexy photo on social media if you want a real partner! (Heidi) and why I don’t like dating sites

23:28   Martin S: It is about Intent. 2001 in UK first social media site to connect with historic ex friends of college times

25:00   2007 Facebook opened its doors to non-students, city based, MS was one of the first there – “Are you on Facebook?

26:10   What is your intent? Accordingly you act on social media as you know the steps to change the relationship I am already having with someone – like in real life

27:05   The signal of attention is understood as a signal of intent

27:36   Social Media and Video tools have changed the way of getting to know each other

28:35   MU Before internet we had a very limited access to people – versus the overflow and sense of abondance of possibiliites  of today which makes choosing more difficult and a lot of people of other social strada or interests

31:00   the cosmic address and compatability: Integral lense important to navigate the internet and ask the right questions to prequalify potential people

33:00   why there are so many singles and short term serial monogamy

33:50   MS  Is the nature of relationships evolving because of technology?

34:50   the nature of relationships is totally different now business wise

35:15   MU  it is all about expectations – agreements

36:42   Is there such a thing as a soul mate?

38:20   “Suprasex”

40:42   MU addresses a question of Zuzu

43:56   MU addresses a question about how soon we can recognize the levels of consciousness? Some good advice what to ask a potential partner

46:00 compatibily – checking out before the investing energy?

47:46   Listen to people what and how they speak and how the body language is.

48:49   MU About body language

49:56   The first impression

50:15   MU addresses the question of Krystin

51:30   avoiding physical contact by overcompensating by spending time on Internet

53:01   Naira from Baku joins the conversation

53::40  A testimonial for Martin’s book and how Naira found a person

54:20   Erotica shyness and situation in a Moslem country and in Russia

55:40   Dinner together via Skype

56:10   Mark: Meeting each other in person is just the beginning

56:50   Relationship as inter being and inter becoming

57:50   Commitments and agreements before entering in a committed relationship