We all are born with the sexual impulse which urges us to go out and seek the other and fulfill the purpose of evolution. More often than not, sexual desire leads us into long-term relationships where both parties possess the good will to stay together, perhaps forever. But when the infatuation period has passed, we often find that our sexual desire has changed, has become less or different, and we may think that our love has ceased as well. Separation and finding a new and exciting partner is often the consequence, but often the same things happen again … or perhaps we give up and don’t expect things to ever get any better.

Fortunately, there is a way to step out of this vicious circle: we all need to learn more about relationships and sexuality. Little is taught about it at home or in school, so that generation after generation, we start our sexual life with assumptions, beliefs, and fantasies that lead us to dysfunctional thinking and behaviors. There are a few courageous people who have taken on the task of getting sexuality out of the taboo zone and speaking openly about it in an educational and therapeutic way. We are happy to have one of these pioneers with us, Christiane Pelmas, who will share some secrets about how we can use our sexuality to live in mature and fulfilling intimate relationships.