Conscious Ageing – Video Archive2018-03-20T10:53:16+00:00

On this page you find:

  1.   The recordings of the 4th season in the sequence of their appearance
  2.   The recordings of the encore series from October 2017
  3.    The encore series (May/June 2017), 
  4.    All the recordings of the original CONSCIOUS AGEING series (Nov.2016 – April 2017), respectively posted in chronological order of the program

Here the episodes of season 4 of  CONSCIOUS AGEING from February to April 2018

00:00 Introductory remarks and how best to watch and participate. “Doc” Amitay offers a few words of his own
04:50 First questions: What has changed for men, especially older men who grew up in that earlier time? He responds.  

06:55 “Personal failure” is a common blame men put upon themselves.

08:30 Many women are leaving relationships.

09:30 Heidi asks why men don’t seem so interested in “interiority” and why women don’t understand the dedication of men, though expressed differently.

12:00 Doc Amitay looks at socially constructed views of sameness.  A slow process.

16:00 Living together, if possible, is better for all. How to understand the other.

18:25 The myth of retirement. Alternatives.
20:50 Mark’s story (briefly)with self-blaming.

22:24 Doc Amitay responds by explaining “locus of control”.  Order vs. chaos.

25:55 He advises googleing Martin Seligman’s “Positive Psychology” for help with the Learned Helplessness theory of depression. Seigman’s Six Virtues: 
1. Wisdom and Knowledge, especially about oneself

  1. Courage
  2. Humanity and Love
  3. Justice – But not social justice warriors! Not fighting against mythical enemies!

32:00 Detour into Eric Berne’s Games People Play. Using these virtues.

36:00 The huge growth of older people as a fraction of the population (still detouring!)

38:58 Back to the Six Virtues:

  1. Temperance (self control, prudence, caution, discretion, humility and modesty!)
  2. 41:16 Transcendence (especially important for older people) includes Gratitude, Appreciation of Beauty, Hope and Optimism, Forgiveness and Mercy, Zest, Passion, Enthusiasm, Playfulness and Humor.

46:00 Importance of lifelong development for the final virtues to blossom. Heidi’s self-admitted problem with perfectionism and self criticism. Oren expands. Lack of introspection among young people.

52:10 Importance of perspective.

55:00 Creativity and novelty until our last breath! Role of Psychedelics in diminishing the fear of death.

57:20 At this point we lost internet on our end and though Dr. Amitay waited, we could not return to wrap-up the show.  Oh, the vagaries of live broadcasting!

Later Dr. Amitay came in again for a short while to give his final thoughts – which then were cut off because of the missing host. As I cut this part away, he is writing a summary of his final remarks:

I think I was simply saying “…it changed my perspective and I learned to genuinely put others before myself and to devote myself to having a positive impact on the people with whom I interact. Doing this, while embracing the six virtues of positive psychology we have been discussing, has truly had an incredibly enriching effect on me, my life and my health.”

About Dr. Oren Amitay

Dr. Oren Amitay is a registered member of the College of Psychologists and has been working with clients and patients in various hospitals and in private practice since 2001. He provides psychotherapy and conducts psychological, personality, intelligence and parenting capacity assessments. He works with a diverse group of clients, ranging from late teens to seniors, one-on-one, in couples or families. He covers every theme imaginable, including issues related to school, work, relationships, family, sexuality, finances, major life transitions, depression, anxiety, to name a few.

He is part of: Ontario Psychological Association: Public Education Committee Member, 2009-present   Ontario Psychological Association: Board of Directors, Toronto Area Representative, 2009-2012    Ontario Psychological Association, 2007-present     The College of Psychologists of Ontario, 2006-present

The public came to know him in 2016 as an outspoken defender for freedom of speech, especially since his public appearances together with Dr. Jordan Peterson.

Visit his website: http://docamitay.com/

His Facebook Page

His YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/DocAmitay

Dr. Amitay on Twitter: https://twitter.com/docamitay

Books by Dr. Jordan Peterson, highly recommended friend and ally of Dr.Oren Amitay

12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos

Maps of Meaning: The Architecture of Belief

About Gina Donaldson

Gina writes:

My Service –  I started creating Personal Passage Planning in Jan 2016 and formally launched it in Sept 2016. My inspiration for creating Personal Passage Planning arose from seeing the aftermath that followed the death of a parent, spouse and a child.  Friends and family were deeply grieving and yet there was so much work to be done. Even if they were the executor, they were in no way prepared for their role or the process. They also had to search the home for required documentation and were frustrated by all those passwords on cell phones and computers.  Why?  Well, in the time leading up to death they continued to hope for a better outcome and then were overwhelmed by the reality that the end was drawing near. They couldn’t bring themselves to have the important conversations about what needed to be done and what comes next.   I bring a systematic and highly tailored approach to change.  My passion is to enable people to deal with change through a thorough, compassionate and respectful approach that is worthy of their trust.  I guide my clients in understanding the importance of preparing for life events and creating a personalized “Life Log”. Together we create this go-to resource contains key documentation, information and client instructions so that they and those they entrust “Know Your Way”. Clients learn why it is up to them to take responsibility to “Know Your Way” and the importance of lessening the burden on others and loved ones who may step in to assist them or find themselves left behind.  My key areas of interest and professional development are ageing and grief. 

00:00 Introductions and orientation
01:48 Dr. Roger Jahnke and his introduction

03:10 His background, getting into Chi Gong

05:10 Now he trains others to Chi Gong and Tai Chi teachers who teach people to teach themselves, “an enthusiastic citizen with a strong intention for the potential of the human race…”

06:15 The false promise of normal medicine. Without vitality, even when he works with hospitals, because of the system

9:00 He sees humans a self-regenerating biological system which is infused with a mental-emotional capacity and a spiritual “feature”, a body-mind-spirit (the three treasures)
10:25 Yes, your health problem was caused by you…but… it’s free!

12:38 Heidi quotes an Indian guest’s critique of the pharmacological industry. So she asks how do we know what’s really good for us?

14:02 Roger’s comeback: stop being hypnotized by “everybody’s doing it”  Some examples!

16:00 A few slides, a definition of immortality that includes a concept of ourselves that is eternally well, cannot get sick, and does not die. He expands.

21:30 He asks why not at some point have a panel of like minded people from among our guests and audience. Details…

25:00 We feel confused so we follow the trend of being confused.

27:18 Heidi asks how do you get people with clearly unhealthy habits, for example, smoking, to stop?  Don’t we need a consciousness shift first? “Teach what you aspire to know.”
30:25 His website, contact info, etc. shown on a slide

33:30 He responds to motivation to change with “spiritual alchemy.” Then he describes his spirituality: the Transphysical Paradigm

36:10 How to find a way into a mind-set change to a kind of egalitarian governance, etc

38:10 “How can I reveal the wellness that is present?” Heidi and Mark both add remarks.  How do get get the courage to just “jump over” the edges of the current paradigm?

41:37 Roger replies: Destiny!  Some do it and others cannot. Anomalies!  Examples from quantum physics.  Paradoxes.

46:00 But everyone deserves a chance to try. Comments by a viewer

48:00 Growing number of studies re: Tai Chi, Yoga and Chi Gong!
50:40 A breath practice: filling belly and then the chest with air, holding for a count or 3 to 7 (or so) and very slowly exhaling,  then one or two normal breaths and then repeat, for as many cycles as you wish.  This nengages receptors in the chest that produce neurotransmitters that produce a feeling in well-being as you exhale. Write down what you feel in various parts of your body.

Mark reports a feeling of expansion, Heidi reports an altered state of consciousness.  

1:00:00 This is the free “medication” that the body produces itself!  Roger proposes a second session, possible group activities.  Goodbye’s

Click on the links below to find books by Dr. Roger Jahnke

The Healer Within: Using Traditional Chinese Techniques To Release Your Body’s Own Medicine, Movement, Massage, Meditation, Breathing

The Healer Within by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

The Healing Promise of Qi: Creating Extraordinary Wellness Through Qigong and Tai Chi

The Healing promise of Qi by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

Smiling From The Heart by Marcus Santer (Author), Dr Roger Jahnke(Foreword)

 Natural, drug-free solutions to depression, stress, anxiety, worry and fear.

Smiling from the Heart Foreword by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

About Dr. Roger Jahnke

Roger Jahnke, OMD, the creator of Tai Chi Easy™, is a doctor of Chinese Medicine with 35 years in clinical Chinese medicine, 9 trips to China, plus 45 years of combined Qigong (Chi Kung) and Tai Chi (Taiji) experience.  He is the Founder of “The Healer Within Foundation” and the Founder and Director of the “Institute of integral Qigong and Tai Chi”.  He has trained well over 1000 Mind-Body Practice Leaders who have taught many 1000s of citizens mind-body practices — Tai Chi and Qigong.  He has lectured at AMA, American Hospital Association, American College of Health Care Executives, Mayo Clinic. He serves as a consultant to hospitals, social service agencies, and corporations in Complementary and Integrative Medicine (CAM / IM), wellness, and medical cost reduction.

Dr Jahnke and the IIQTC have been involved in numerous research projects. In 2005, Dr. Jahnke was appointed to co-convene a National Expert Meeting on Qi Gong and Tai Chi in collaboration with the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and the National Blueprint for Active Aging. The panel of experts agreed that the major challenge to the wide dissemination of these profound practices has been the exclusive dependence on masters or experts to transmit the teachings.

Dr. Jahnke is the author of “The Healer Within” (Harper San Francisco, 1999) used in body/mind programs worldwide. His most recent book, The Healing Promise of Qi (McGraw-Hill, 2002) has become an instant classic in the western literature on Qigong and Tai Chi.

These are the time stamps of the full video where this exercise is taken from.

Please watch it HERE

00:00 Introductions and orientation
01:48 Dr. Roger Jahnke and his introduction

03:10 His background, getting into Chi Gong

05:10 Now he trains others to Chi Gong and Tai Chi teachers who teach people to teach themselves, “an enthusiastic citizen with a strong intention for the potential of the human race…”

06:15 The false promise of normal medicine. Without vitality, even when he works with hospitals, because of the system

9:00 He sees humans a self-regenerating biological system which is infused with a mental-emotional capacity and a spiritual “feature”, a body-mind-spirit (the three treasures)
10:25 Yes, your health problem was caused by you…but… it’s free!

12:38 Heidi quotes an Indian guest’s critique of the pharmacological industry. So she asks how do we know what’s really good for us?

14:02 Roger’s comeback: stop being hypnotized by “everybody’s doing it”  Some examples!

16:00 A few slides, a definition of immortality that includes a concept of ourselves that is eternally well, cannot get sick, and does not die. He expands.

21:30 He asks why not at some point have a panel of like minded people from among our guests and audience. Details…

25:00 We feel confused so we follow the trend of being confused.

27:18 Heidi asks how do you get people with clearly unhealthy habits, for example, smoking, to stop?  Don’t we need a consciousness shift first? “Teach what you aspire to know.”
30:25 His website, contact info, etc. shown on a slide

33:30 He responds to motivation to change with “spiritual alchemy.” Then he describes his spirituality: the Transphysical Paradigm

36:10 How to find a way into a mind-set change to a kind of egalitarian governance, etc

38:10 “How can I reveal the wellness that is present?” Heidi and Mark both add remarks.  How do get get the courage to just “jump over” the edges of the current paradigm?

41:37 Roger replies: Destiny!  Some do it and others cannot. Anomalies!  Examples from quantum physics.  Paradoxes.

46:00 But everyone deserves a chance to try. Comments by a viewer

48:00 Growing number of studies re: Tai Chi, Yoga and Chi Gong!
50:40 A breath practice: filling belly and then the chest with air, holding for a count or 3 to 7 (or so) and very slowly exhaling,  then one or two normal breaths and then repeat, for as many cycles as you wish.  This nengages receptors in the chest that produce neurotransmitters that produce a feeling in well-being as you exhale. Write down what you feel in various parts of your body.

Mark reports a feeling of expansion, Heidi reports an altered state of consciousness.  

1:00:00 This is the free “medication” that the body produces itself!  Roger proposes a second session, possible group activities.  Goodbye’s

Click on the links below to find books by Dr. Roger Jahnke

The Healer Within: Using Traditional Chinese Techniques To Release Your Body’s Own Medicine, Movement, Massage, Meditation, Breathing

The Healer Within by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

The Healing Promise of Qi: Creating Extraordinary Wellness Through Qigong and Tai Chi

The Healing promise of Qi by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

Smiling From The Heart by Marcus Santer (Author), Dr Roger Jahnke(Foreword)

 Natural, drug-free solutions to depression, stress, anxiety, worry and fear.

Smiling from the Heart Foreword by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

About Dr. Roger Jahnke

Roger Jahnke, OMD, the creator of Tai Chi Easy™, is a doctor of Chinese Medicine with 35 years in clinical Chinese medicine, 9 trips to China, plus 45 years of combined Qigong (Chi Kung) and Tai Chi (Taiji) experience.  He is the Founder of “The Healer Within Foundation” and the Founder and Director of the “Institute of integral Qigong and Tai Chi”.  He has trained well over 1000 Mind-Body Practice Leaders who have taught many 1000s of citizens mind-body practices — Tai Chi and Qigong.  He has lectured at AMA, American Hospital Association, American College of Health Care Executives, Mayo Clinic. He serves as a consultant to hospitals, social service agencies, and corporations in Complementary and Integrative Medicine (CAM / IM), wellness, and medical cost reduction.

Dr Jahnke and the IIQTC have been involved in numerous research projects. In 2005, Dr. Jahnke was appointed to co-convene a National Expert Meeting on Qi Gong and Tai Chi in collaboration with the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and the National Blueprint for Active Aging. The panel of experts agreed that the major challenge to the wide dissemination of these profound practices has been the exclusive dependence on masters or experts to transmit the teachings.

Dr. Jahnke is the author of “The Healer Within” (Harper San Francisco, 1999) used in body/mind programs worldwide. His most recent book, The Healing Promise of Qi (McGraw-Hill, 2002) has become an instant classic in the western literature on Qigong and Tai Chi.

About Dr. Helen Lavretsky

Dr. Helen Lavretsky is a Professor In-Residence and the Semel Scholar in Integrative Mental Health in the Department of Psychiatry at UCLA, a geriatric psychiatrist with research interest in complementary and integrative medicine and mind-body approaches to treatment and prevention of mood and cognitive disorders in older adults. She received the 2001-2007 and 2010-2015 Career Development awards from NIMH, and 2015-2020 Research Career award from the National Institute of Complementary and Integrative Health, and other prestigious research awards. Her current research studies include an NIMH-funded study of biomarkers of brain aging in geriatric depression, PCORI funded study of treatment resistant depression in older adults, and the NCCAM funded study of complementary use of Tai-Chi to improve antidepressant response in geriatric depression, as well as a yoga study for women with cardiovascular disease and memory complains. Dr. Lavretsky is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and a Fellow of the American College of Neuropsychopharmacology.

During the show Helen shows some slides about her topic. You can download them HERE

presented by  Helen Lavretsky and spoken by Heidi Hornlein

Timestamps for the whole presentation available at  https://thewisdomfactory.net/helen-lavretsky/

About Dr. Helen Lavretsky

Dr. Helen Lavretsky is a Professor In-Residence and the Semel Scholar in Integrative Mental Health in the Department of Psychiatry at UCLA, a geriatric psychiatrist with research interest in complementary and integrative medicine and mind-body approaches to treatment and prevention of mood and cognitive disorders in older adults. She received the 2001-2007 and 2010-2015 Career Development awards from NIMH, and 2015-2020 Research Career award from the National Institute of Complementary and Integrative Health, and other prestigious research awards. Her current research studies include an NIMH-funded study of biomarkers of brain aging in geriatric depression, PCORI funded study of treatment resistant depression in older adults, and the NCCAM funded study of complementary use of Tai-Chi to improve antidepressant response in geriatric depression, as well as a yoga study for women with cardiovascular disease and memory complains. Dr. Lavretsky is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and a Fellow of the American College of Neuropsychopharmacology.

During the show Helen shows some slides about her topic. You can download them HERE

You’re never too old! Women and Sexuality

with Andrea Eisenberg MD, FACOG

Timestamps

00:00 Intro and how to watch the show, make comments and ask questions

04:54 Meeting Dr. Eisenberg and how she got interested in Obstetrics and Gynecology

05:30 Heidi reports how her early experiences in ob/gyn had been with male doctors.  Andrea puts it a bit in context by pointing out that ob/gyn includes surgery which traditionally attracted men.And it’s not an easy life style for women who want a “traditional” route.
07:30 What about the older women you meet? Andrea reports that 60 year olds may have no one to talk to…and she’s often “it”.  She always asks about the patient’s relationships as a matter of course.  And she gets invited to weddings!

10:15 Changes that come with menopause, both physical and psychological.  And just what IS normal?

12:48 What “should” women be like at menopause or later? Pleasing their partner is a biggie!

14:50  Changes in practice over the years, questions from viewers, including from Martin Ucik, author of “SEX PURPOSE LOVE”

16:50  Those pesky changes! Lack of estrogen! Treating some of the common concerns.  How women value themselves.
24:30 The importance of companionship, especially for older couples. What happens when estrogen production stops.

26:20 Viewer questions.  Heidi recalls the relief from the fear of pregnancy that menopause brought. Compare with men’s fear of impotence. Other ways to be intimate.  Getting in touch with the body.

34:28 General medical advice for older women. Cancer and heart disease are the #1 and #2 diseases for older women so everything you heard about staying healthy.  Bladder infections can be so mild that many women don’t recognize it.  

37:12  Back to younger women:  What about menstrual pain? Choices of birth control?  Andrea describes several, some of which are new to us.

41:10 Hormone replacements, with slightly increased levels of breast cancer. History of decreasing levels of estrogen in birth control meds.

48:20 Women and pain! Men’s and women’s ignorance of each other!

51:30 How is it living with teen-age girls in this age, Heidi asks Andrea. Men and women in the workplace.  LGBT questions
56:20 Final questions: Mark asks if she ever seems like a “priest” for non-religious women.
57:40 We notice a final question from our viewers about returning to sexuality after a long period of monogamy.

58.52 Final remarks: Menopause is not the end of a woman’s life!

 

About Andrea Eisenberg MD, FACOG

Andrea Eisenberg

Andrea Eisenberg is a board certified ob/gyn in the metro Detroit area. She has been in private practice for 25 years, serving women from puberty through menopause. Through her years of practice, she has been let into the most intimate moments of her patients’ lives and shared in their secrets, heartaches, joys, losses, victories. She enjoys the variety her specialty brings to her doorstep including seeing adolescents as they enter adulthood, women starting their families, women navigating through menopause and the years beyond, and everything in between. She has physician-patient relationships that have spanned many years and generations. More recently, she has begun writing to share experiences of her work as a way to capture the human side of medicine and what doctors feel in caring for patients. She has documented these stories on her blog, www.secretlifeofobgyn.wordpress.com. She has been published in Intima, A Journal of Narrative Medicine and Pulse, Voices From the Heart of Medicine. She is also a guest blogger on KevinMD and Doximity. 

Below season 3 of Conscious Ageing from October to November 2017

Is Life Extension Possible?

with Nicola Bagalà

00:00 Introductions and instructions

02:04 Presenting Nicola Bagalà

03:04 How did a young Nicola get interested in questions about ageing?

04:50 Other aspects of Nicola’s life

06:15 Typical ways we look at the last decades of life and how do you see them, Nicola:  “Nobody ever died because they were too healthy.”

08:40 Pacemaker cells? “Running out of cells” is a common way of ageing.  And ageing ITSELF is a sort of disease, depending on definitions.  More accurately we might consider ageing as a set of diseases.

11:20 The processes that lead to , i.e, Alzheimers or cancer or essentially the same as those “diseases” themselves.  At younger ages, these processes are not yet pathological in their expression

13:05 So, if we could control these disease processes, could we, say, live forever?  Well, that depends, Nicola replies. But the point of rejuvenation is not eternal life but good health.

15:52 What technology? Some clarification to begin with, like metabolism. There are 7-9 areas of accumulative damage which we may be able to treat area by area.  A series of different therapies.

19:27 Heidi asks about “inner technologies” which are not included in the conversation so far (Ken Wilber’s left side quadrants). Nicola asks for clarification

22:50 He sees the “left side” as still part of what affects the objective approaches he describes.

24:29 He describes some of the anti-ageing therapies. But they’re not available yet!  He relates the cumulative effects of multiple therapies that will still takes decades to become available, for our children and theirs

29:20 Currently promising therapies: senolytics which i finding ways to search out and remove senescent cells so that natural immunities will function better because the cells are more healthy.

33:20 Mark reports on a personal experience with healing, concluding that he must have the “proper” proportion  of senescent cells.  Ha-ha! And Nicola integrates the experience into his understanding of healing and now back to senolytics.

35:00 Interesting results in mice, human trials may be soon.  A comment from a watcher who notes some caution necessary, perhaps an autoimmune problem?

37:57 Lifespan.io and the Life Extension Advocacy Foundation (LEAF) for more info about fine tuning how this targeting works. LEAF is an American charity for raising funding for ageing research

40:35 Ageing is not a very popular topic!  Also some technical experimentation by us!

42:05 What about telomeres? Telomeres are structures on the ends of chromosomes which “wear out” with age and normal cell division leading to a critical shortness so that they no longer allow for further division, hence ageing. But they allow all cells to continue to divide, including cancerous ones which take special advantage of the telomerase enzyme to grow vigorously.

43:40 Aubrey de Grey of the SENS Foundation could avoid the telomere problem with the infusion of stem cells! Another program called ALT (Alternative Lengthening of Telomeres) is underway to understand how cancers use this means to propagate.

46:47 Watchers’ questions: What does your guest say is the definition of life? Nicola’s response is interesting!  Age may be a factor in an unexpected way!  A spirited discussion follows! Nicola insists that the central issue is not age, per se, but HEALTH!

53:14 Marks so far unasked question, “What the hell is society going to do with all these old people collecting Social Security and old age pensions, etc?”  Nicola has thought about this!

57:00 Reactions from watchers.  Is coconut oil important for Alzheimer’s? No info from Nicola.

58:40 Last remarks from Nicola: Being sick is not fun. Getting sick is much more probable as we age so let’s begin working on

59:43 Thank you’s and goodbye’s and upcoming shows.

Some links:

Leafscience.org

Lifespan.io

#CrowdfundTheCure for #aging at www.lifespan.io

A TedTalk by Aubrey de Grey: https://www.ted.com/talks/aubrey_de_grey_says_we_can_avoid_aging/up-next

A recent article by Nicolà Bagalà: http://transhumanist-party.org/2017/10/17/the-good-sides-of-aging/

Nicola Bagalà is on Facebook in Italian: https://www.facebook.com/nicola.bagala

Also in English on Facebook: Rejuvenaction

About Nicola Bagala

A long-standing expat and a scientist at heart, Nicola is a mathematician with a varied range of interests touching several scientific disciplines and arts as well. Although what initially drove him to science was an interest in astronomy, physics, and  exact sciences in general, since 2011 he has gradually developed an ever-growing curiosity about biology, genetics, and evolution. This new passion arose from a somewhat sudden ‘discovery’ of the ageing process: Although he of course already knew that every human being is apparently doomed to frailty, disease, and death past a handful of decades of life, he had somehow neglected this obvious fact until some life events made it obvious. This realisation led to another, unexpected and exciting discovery: Not only an ever-increasing number of scientists consider biological ageing as a pathological process amenable to medical intervention, but some of them have already come up with plans to put an end to age-related frailty and finally make one of the oldest dreams of humanity come true—the wisdom of age combined with the vigour of youth.

 
 
 
 
 
 

In particular, Nicola was inspired by the figure of dr. Aubrey de Grey, the most vocal and tenacious advocate of rejuvenation biotechnologies aimed at rejuvenating the human body. After reading de Grey’s book Ending Aging in 2014, Nicola decided to become an activist and launched his advocacy website Rejuvenaction, whose goal is explaining in very simple terms what biological ageing is and how science may put an end to it, as well as addressing the concerns of those who fear defeating ageing might have adverse effects on people’s live or society.

Since 2016, Nicola is a volunteer for the Life Extension Advocacy Foundation, a nonprofit advocating for rejuvenation science and crowdfunding basic scientific research to speed up the coming of future rejuvenation biotechnologies. In the future, he would like to get a second master’s degree, in biology.

He also writes on his personal blog from time to time and works on his own free science fiction ebook series—again, when time allows.

00:00 Introductions and how to watch the show

01:45 Presenting Susan Farling and her first remarks

03:00 Her growing professional/personal reasons for paying more attention to people around retirement age

03:30 The developmental stages as we age, from young years on

04:40 Ageism begins when we’re quite young also.  Things we notice as children but without any explanation.

06:12 How to live in/with an ageing body in an ageist society. And you don’t have to be old to be a victim of ageism. Some examples

07:50 Ageism accelerates as we get older; a kind of disrespect. Is embedded in language.  Examples: “dear” “young lady” “giovanotto” (young man). Importance of context, tone, etc.

11:10 Making clear distinctions, no black and white labeling (or reacting!) The internalised ageism against both ourselves and others. Examples: the difficulty we have with the word “old” and how do we want to be called, will I look ridiculous in “those” clothes, using age as an excuse for letting others to something for us as not so capable.

13:52 Comments from viewers

14:50 Susan gives an example of her own ageism based on shame, which helped start her on this new interest in Ageism. And Heidi gives a counterexample!

16:40 A viewer contrasts Eastern (Indian) vs. Western views of ageing.  Susan wonders is the disengaged elder is part of that Eastern view.  Mark offers a counterexample.

19:08 Complicated! Increased consciousness as a great help. Heidi expands. Infringing on autonomy.

22:00 Heidi asks how Susan brings up ageing issues with her clients  She says they don’t initially show up for those reasons. But she is refocusing her efforts currently.

23:38 what about the possibility that with such a large percentage of the population being older than EVER, is there a new “LEVEL of consciousness” emerging that has reached a significant influence on public life (and they VOTE!).  Heidi insists on visibility!

25:30 Gerotranscendence: Susan recommends: 
MATURING INTO GEROTRANSCENDENCE by Lars Tornstam, Ph.D. which you can find at: http://www.atpweb.org/jtparchive/trps-43-11-02-166.pdf

26:28 A viewer asks that Susan talk about the hopelessness that some older people feel about approaching death. Susan responds with suggestions. Conscious dying is a new and growing topic.

29:38: The taboo on speaking about death: Go to “The Death Chicks”. Undoing the taboo: people who make and decorate their own caskets and set them as furniture in their homes.

32:27 Progress but at the price of experience, but back to Susan’s book, “One Choice at a Time; A practical guide to wellbeing” available at her web site: www.susanfarling.com and is based on people in transition (not necessarily getting older) with stories and exercise like the “Friendship Filters”.

36:46 Heidi asks if there is a “vocabulary” of Ageism. Susan replies affirmatively and will send us a link.
39:08 What about women who fear “looking their age”? Quite a discussion follows.  What about post menopause liberation?

43:41 Another viewer asks what might be the best of both (eastern and Western) worlds. As examples of western trends, Susan brings up joint living situations. Mark mentions current research into healthy ageing, of gerontology rather that geriatrics.
47:00 But going back to vocabulary, what should we call ourselves?  Elders sounds good. Some rewriting of stories is necessary.

49:29 How to approach transitions without beating ourselves up.  Find others who are also transitioning, or have done so recently.  Look to our “elders”!  See what can be finally developed!  Dogs, choirs, etc.

55:05 We become much more tolerant of views, less dualistic, less judgemental, more individualistic.

56:10 A viewer asks, perhaps about his own father, how older adults can overcome Ageism.  Engage the older one re: what they are interested in.  Importance of humor!
59:30 Final remarks, thank you’s, goodbye’s. “Live long and prosper!”

About Susan Farling

Like many of the people she serves, Susan’s career path has taken several turns and shifts. As well as turning to the online world as a coach, she’s been a counselor and psychotherapist in private practice for almost thirty years.

Susan started her education with an undergraduate degree in drawing and painting. Her creative interests have been a theme throughout her life. Her curiosity about what made some people more resilient than others led her to work as a registered nurse primarily in acute care psychiatry. Wanting to expand the opportunity she had to understand and support her client’s perspectives and well-being, she went back to university to get her master’s degree in counseling psychology. As well as her formal education, she counts as influences poets, yogis, artists, mystics, musicians, and meditators.

Susan treasures her relationships with her family, friends, and community. She practices chi kung, yoga and reiki. She is a lover of the fun of pot lucks; of mist and rain; of trees, dogs, and silence.

Susan’s book “One Choice at a Time: A Practical Guide to Well-Being”  is an accessible and engaging guidebook designed to help the reader develop and maintain well-being, resourcefulness, and resilience. Step by step exercises are interwoven with compelling stories of her clients using, integrating and benefitting from the practices described. You can purchase it by contacting Susan HERE

Retirees who wonder why they should bother to get up in the morning turn to coach Susan Farling MA, RCC for support in finding their motivation to design their ‘best for them’ lives.

Visit Susan’s website HERE

Here are some of the resources Susan Farling told us about during the live broadcast:

The article on language:  There are many others.

 
Community building on-line:
 
Excellent site for women over 50+
www. sixtyandme.com  
 
Varied – men and women – some inspirational
 
Offers a selection of sites:
 
 
 

The Power of Change 

with Fred Jones

 

01:36 Intro of our guest, Fred Jones

02:50 what young people do we know? Contrast with Fred, whom young people keep young.  How he got involved in working with young people: Toastmasters had an “orphan program” for young people.  His own difficulties he had speaking as a kid.  He hopes to develop groups for youth around the world to develop LEADERS!

08:18 Fred’s explains how it works, by allowing the kids to run the show within a structure based on roleplaying: i,e: count how many times people interrupted someone,count how many “filler words” were used, who wants to tell a joke, timekeeper, host, questioner, speaker, etc, plus how to give feedback (“the secret sauce!”).  They end up coaching each other!  It all builds self-confidence and communication skills.

12:45 Mark asks how old are these people? 6-16.  Often siblings in the same family! It’s something the whole family can participate in!  And parents love it.
14:35 Heidi: Are you pioneering a whole new education system? Red talks about the current school system’s limitations. His efforts to work as an “addendum” to regular school hours, from homes, and with Google Hangouts, or other platforms, etc.

17:04 LEADERSHIP is the goal! A viewer’s question leads Fred to explain what he means by leadership skills

18:30 How constant are the groups?  More boys or girls?  Some older members can run groups for younger ones.  How will he “run” groups in Victoria, BC when he’s in Australia soon?  Fred says they’ll run it themselves! And he has a manual, which is mostly for parents, called “Becoming Brilliant! – Coaches Playbook.

21:44 Will you be affiliated with Toastmasters when you go to Australia.  Not much, says Fred and elaborates.

23:00 How did this project get off the ground?  Homeschool pèarents seem to love this so we get lots of homeschool groups and doing a lot online.No financial support is needed!

26:00 How to reach Fred: OurFutureLeaders.Ca – with many materials for getting started.  Fred stresses humility.

29:30 How work is changing: online, different locations, project commitments rather than long term positions,

32:00 Comparing present day leadership with Fred’s vision.  He asks: Where are our leaders?  The importance of beginning young!

35:00 Where is the opposition to such changes? Fred refers to a Book called ”Turn the Ship Around” which changed the whole destiny of a nuclear submarine which had developed a reputation as a terrible U.S. ship to be assigned to. Bottom up rather than top down.
38:55 Heidi plugs Frederic Laloux’s “Reinventing Organizations”.

40:00 Fred and a viewer plug Simon Sinek’s books and then he turns to explore the theme of The Power of Change and how not to get the same old, same old. Fred’s new lifestyle, homeless, on the move, listening to Ted Talks, second childhood!

44:00 the Baby boomer bulge and how it is changing our views on ageing.  It’s a big plus for diving into his “new” career coaching young people.  Let’s do it!  Heidi expands!

50:00 Fred starts winding down by quoting Nelson Mandela: “Education is the most powerful weapon you can use to change the world.” He saw how conditions in Zambia and Zimbabwe had deteriorated with independence but without education.

56:30 Fred is excited about low level satellite internet coverage for the whole world.

58:00 Fred’s final words, thank you’s, goodbye’s.

About Fred Jones

Fred writes about himself:

I have noted that when I have made changes in my life, it has a positive effect. Examples of the changes is that I have moved and lived in a few places during my lifetime. Here are examples:
13 years old – Moved with my family from Thunder Bay in Northern Ontario to Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
20 years old – hitched hiked to Europe and through Africa and settled in South Africa 1 year later.
44 years old – returned to Canada and lived in Toronto after traveling for 30,000 km throughout Canada.
67 years old – moved to Victoria, British Columbia where I am currently located.
70 years old – traveled for 5 months through Africa, from Cape Town to Cairo.
 
As background, I also am involved in Toastmasters for the past 14 years and have acquired the Distinguished Toastmaster award. I also have been involved in indoor rowing for about 16 years (on rowing machines) and have participated in two World Championships held in Boston and have rowed the equivalent of more than twice around the world. (current distance is over 97,000 km).

Evolutionary Peer Mentoring: Growth Groups for Older People? 

with Rey Carr

00:00 Introductory remarks about the show

01:23 introducing Rey Carr

02:50 What’s Peer Mentoring?  As he defines it, it’s for 55 plussers who can’t share with others, who feel isolated.

5.15 Mark expresses contrast between the way he and heidi are (for example) and how their parents were as they aged.

06:22 Rey gives credit to Susan Farling’s  “Unmasking Aging” contribution, points out lack of mission of our parents, no purpose after “work life” ended.  How to entice older people to join a self-mentoring group. 
Rey points out tool  no. 1: listening, as in “active listening” so people feel heard.

10:00 Tool no. 2: asking good questions which promotes talking about things that matter.  
11:20 A more evolutionary principle at work, perhaps unspoken, of wanting to give back!

12:15 Can this happen via internet? Yes, sort of but in person is best.  And there are such groups in British Columbia which send people to isolated people just for such purposes.

14:10 Most groups are volunteers but some public funding is sometimes available.  Also there are gov’t. “Seniors Helping Seniors” groups

15:50  The “peer” aspect of these groups adds a quite different flavor

17:00 Not necessarily looking for advice!  Differences between men and women, however stereotyped.

19:20 Informal groups have flexible rules, which is not OK for all people.
21:20 An example of a more structured group approach

23:10  A typical way to end a group meeting: with gratitude

25:00 How does Rey induce such a supportive atmosphere? He doesn’t see himself as  group “leader”.

27:00 heidi sees Rey as really being a leader of the sort the world needs now but not top-down.  Similarities with Otto Sharmer’s “Theory U”.

28:40 Is Rey’s presence required for meetings to continue?
32:05 A viewer has written a cogent remark about leadership.  Rey looks back at the hierarchical nature of professional meetings early in his career, where rank was shown by the order in which they appeared for meetings.  The opposite of peer approaches

35:40  Do some potential candidates for peer mentoring sometimes want something more structured?  For example, adolescents couldn’t see the structure but it was present.  Some olders want some clear structure.

41:00 In the program title we speak of “Growth Groups”…so what’s the growth?  Brain plasticity, as opposed to traditional stages of growth, shows unending possible growth stages, especially in Transition periods between stages of life
42:15 The Peer Recovery Movement for people who have had long periods in their lives in therapy, sometimes called “Mental Health System Survivors”(!) Quite revolutionary!

45:25 His book! Downloadable at:https://spiritmentor.wordpress.com/2017/05/26/evolutionary-peer-mentoring-a-growth-group-for-seniors-2/
Or at our website: https://thewisdomfactory.net/conscious-ageing-info-page/rey-carr/

48:00 Well known mentoring relationships are included
51:55 The short title: Shaping the Future.  The long version adds: 150+ Canadian Mentoring Relationships that Make Canada Great, Creative, innovative, Successful and Welcoming

52:45 Mentoring is very popular in Canada, is included in all public and private school curriculums

53:25 Is mentoring a profession? Some professionalising going on, but it’s not at all necessary.

55:00 Do mentors give advice?  Um, sometimes but not a lot, a bit of a story. Discretion is necessary.

58:30 Differences between coaching and mentoring? Mentoring is more about learning while coaching more often is about behavior change.  But both use listening as a powerful tool. Results vs. relationships

1:01:10 Goodbye’s, thank you’s, some gratitude!

About Rey Carr

 
Over the years I’ve written dozens of biographies of myself for various publications, lectures, or workshops. I’ve never been completely satisfied with any of them. Although I’m proud of the peer training manuals I have written, the lectures and training workshops I have led, the magazine I publish, and my contributions to social media, most of my current life if centered around a keyboard and my family.
 
 
I think of myself a “spiritual activist.” That is, I think of myself as continually changing, curious about new ideas and often taking them on for a while to see how they fit. I’m a member of several regular groups without which I think my productivity and happiness as a post-retirement university professor and corporate executive would have withered and left me without a life compass.
 
 
I’ve obtained different degrees, the latest being a Ph.D. in Metaphysics, and credentials, the latest being a Nationally Certified Peer Coach, all of which I’ve found and still find meaningful, and I have a number of interests or hobbies that I enjoy. But amongst my own developmental evolution, I live by a set of seven core beliefs that I call my “personal anthropology.”  These include: All Life Has a Purpose; We Are in Heaven; Fear Cannot Guide Us; Knowing is Tough, Asking is Harder; Without You I am Nothing; and Growth in Life is a Paradox.
 
 
I’m glad to share my more traditional resume at http://www.peer.ca/racres.html  

Horses as Catalysts for Healthy Ageing

with Alice MacGillivray

00:00 Intro to the show and how to watch and comment and Alice says hello

01:50 Introducing Alice and her first remarks about ageing and being a girl crazy kid but not realising her dream until close to 60.

04:30 But in the meantime… dreams of being a vet back then, ongoing interest in animals, parks management, eventually in leadership and learning that has been very helpful in understanding horses!

06:40 Differences between prey animals like horses and predatory ones like dogs.

07:35 Some neuroscience: humans and dogs tend to be left brained while horses are right brained and in the moment.  Importance of just “being” with a horse, a la horse whisperers.

11:15 How to get involved with horses without actually owning or even riding one.  How to tune into another being! So unlike our “work” life.

13:15 How can hoses be sneaky?  Their intelligence.

18:15 Heidi asks how to “at an age” or with special needs get involved with a horse.  Special benefits to older people.

22:20 A short presentation, (after brief tech problems) some stories. Benefits of connecting with nature, and with horses! The Century Club…

29:45 “Therapy” horses (short “only we talk” period glitch at 31:29 – 33:55).

34:30 Talk about her book!  How it  happened…”Riding Horseback in Purple”. How to have a great relationship with a horse as a lead into a relationship with one’s self, meditation.
38:28 More about other ways to “have” or relate to horses.

44:40  Why choose a horse over a dog? Not a yes/no choice.

46:52 How about the fear of falling?  It’s complicated!

49:40 Mark asks why girls seem to like horses more than boys.  Interesting responses!

53:50 Notes on the slides. Big Trips, surprises, lots of ways to get involved, etc.
59:00 Contact info (Alice@4KM.net), last remarks, thank you’s and good bye’s.

About Alice MacGillivray

In the 1960s, when Alice got her first summer job as a veterinary assistant, it was “common knowledge” that women didn’t become veterinarians, especially for large animals.  Without putting up a fight, Alice set aside her career dreams (in her community it was common knowledge that women didn’t fight tradition).  But her love of animals never went away.  Her employment evolved over time, including work in several major park organizations and a program director position with a university.  She was the first person in her family to go beyond highschool.  She earned an undergraduate degree and an MA in Leadership in her 40s, and an MA in Human Development and a PhD in Human and Organizational Systems in her 50s.   Her children were living on their own by then.  In her late 50s, Alice—now working as a consultant from her home office—dared to revisit the dream of owning a horse.  She dove into research to see if this was possible.  Did she have the resources?  Could she develop the skills?  What sort of a support network might she develop?  How could she find the right horse?  The year she was going to turn 60, her horse stepped off the trailer and into her life.  And she has never regretted the decision.  
 
Alice’s website is www.4KM.net.
The Riding Horseback in Purple book siteis http://ridinghorsebackinpurple.4km.net/  

Here the episodes of the first encore series CONSCIOUS AGEING from May/June 2017

The new reality of an emerging generation – the over 50’s

with David Harry Stewart of AGEIST

00:00 Introductions, how to comment, etc.

03:33 David adds a bit of bio including nearly 3 years with Ageist magazine and explains his switch in focus to older “subjects” in front of his camera lens.

04:50 He kept getting older, but his subjects didn’t and that led to founding Ageist.

06:10 The media world hasn’t “caught up” with the new reality of this emerging demographic.  A brief history of changing stages on ageing and how that affects value systems and behavior.

8:00 The traditional system in italy, the importance of mindset.  The lack of self reflection until you reach a “certain age”.

11:00 The uniqueness that grows as we age, about the the mid-fifties or so.  New decisions become possible.

The example of Cynthia Adler.

16:00 Heidi’s experience, more examples

18:00 “The pharmaceutical industry has been very good to me…but…” and Mark’s experience. Lowell Ann’s comment.  David deconstructs “retirement”.

23:00 Reactions to AARP.  For many, retirement is now unthinkable.
26:10 The need for purpose – which could begin at an early age, and the difficulties of that!

29:40 Lowell Ann adds “meaning” to purpose. David brings up “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl.

31:16 Heidi plugs Jordan Peterson’s “Maps of Meaning”.  Mark plugs Ken Wilber. The importance of continuing to learn.  David takes off on curiosity.  Those who AREN’T curious and how do we relate to them?

39:04 Mark’s big “curiosity” 5 years ago.  Trait openness vs. conscientiousness.

42:20 How’s the magazine gowing? Feedback, reception? “Six Things to Do after 50” has over 125,000 views!   He add that he’d include in a do-over: importance of family/friends/community and some sort of spiritual relationship.  He’s been surprised how many older people meditate, religious practices, connection with nature, to something greater than self.

44:53 Heidi: There’s something more than you…and even you are something more than the you [that] you know!

45:16 So many of those Ageist reaches say they no longer feel invisible, especially women.  And David is good at making people LOOK cool!  A funny story about “self-empowerment”… VISUAL EMPOWERMENT COACHING! (Heidi’s term)

50:58 Heidi says he’s an archeologist! And david reveals a photographer’s secret: 80% of a portrait is set by the interpersonal relationship you establish. (which is what he’s done in our current interview!)

54:14 The magic unfolding of our interviews/conversations

56:00 David shows some photos from his website. How to connect: agei.st, also a newsletter

57:57 “Ageist” not as a pejorative  term, but in the sense of being “pro” ageist.

1:00:40 Thank you’s, good bye’s, final words

About David Harry Stewart | Founding Partner of AGEIST

For 35 years a highly successful award-winning photographer specializing in people-oriented advertising. He has partnered with numerous companies, bands and agencies to help them sell their products and build their brands across multiple cultures in various countries. His award-winning photographs have appeared in GQ, Esquire, Harper’s Bazaar, Glamour, Wired, Forbes, Interview, Time and on multiple covers for The New York Times Magazine and New York Magazine. Agency and brand clients include Vice Media, Nike, Adidas, Google, ZipCar, Coors, AT&T, Coke, Philip Morris, Toyota, Lexus, BMW, Corona, American Eagle, Gillette, Philips, Johnson&Johnson and many more. He is also frequently called upon to speak at events and universities across the country as an authority on the emerging leading edge group that is the focus of AGEIST. 

About Barbara Quick

Barbara Quick is a senior with a younger, positive attitude about life.  For the past two+  years she has been her husband’s caregiver as he becomes more disabled with Parkinson’s and some dementia.

Barbara loves to write and has some books planned with stories from her 61 years of marriage.  One book will be about their late son and living with his mental health problems, and another about their son-in-law and his life of survival since early childhood.

She loves dogs and has had a dog in her family since young childhood.  Until about 6 months ago, they only had one dog at a time.  Now, however, they have two — a 14 1/2 year old yellow Lab mix and a 6 1/2 year old Jack Russell terrier.  She has found life to be a little more hectic with two dogs than it was with one, but they love them both dearly.

Visit Barbar’s websites

dogsandtheirowners.com discoveryhealthhappiness.com

00:00 Introductions, how to comment, etc.

03:33 David adds a bit of bio including nearly 3 years with Ageist magazine and explains his switch in focus to older “subjects” in front of his camera lens.

04:50 He kept getting older, but his subjects didn’t and that led to founding Ageist.

06:10 The media world hasn’t “caught up” with the new reality of this emerging demographic.  A brief history of changing stages on ageing and how that affects value systems and behavior.

8:00 The traditional system in italy, the importance of mindset.  The lack of self reflection until you reach a “certain age”.

11:00 The uniqueness that grows as we age, about the the mid-fifties or so.  New decisions become possible.

The example of Cynthia Adler.

16:00 Heidi’s experience, more examples

18:00 “The pharmaceutical industry has been very good to me…but…” and Mark’s experience. Lowell Ann’s comment.  David deconstructs “retirement”.

23:00 Reactions to AARP.  For many, retirement is now unthinkable.
26:10 The need for purpose – which could begin at an early age, and the difficulties of that!

29:40 Lowell Ann adds “meaning” to purpose. David brings up “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl.

31:16 Heidi plugs Jordan Peterson’s “Maps of Meaning”.  Mark plugs Ken Wilber. The importance of continuing to learn.  David takes off on curiosity.  Those who AREN’T curious and how do we relate to them?

39:04 Mark’s big “curiosity” 5 years ago.  Trait openness vs. conscientiousness.

42:20 How’s the magazine gowing? Feedback, reception? “Six Things to Do after 50” has over 125,000 views!   He add that he’d include in a do-over: importance of family/friends/community and some sort of spiritual relationship.  He’s been surprised how many older people meditate, religious practices, connection with nature, to something greater than self.

44:53 Heidi: There’s something more than you…and even you are something more than the you [that] you know!

45:16 So many of those Ageist reaches say they no longer feel invisible, especially women.  And David is good at making people LOOK cool!  A funny story about “self-empowerment”… VISUAL EMPOWERMENT COACHING! (Heidi’s term)

50:58 Heidi says he’s an archeologist! And david reveals a photographer’s secret: 80% of a portrait is set by the interpersonal relationship you establish. (which is what he’s done in our current interview!)

54:14 The magic unfolding of our interviews/conversations

56:00 David shows some photos from his website. How to connect: agei.st, also a newsletter

57:57 “Ageist” not as a pejorative  term, but in the sense of being “pro” ageist.

1:00:40 Thank you’s, good bye’s, final words

About Bonnie Greenwell Ph.D.

Bonnie is a psychologist and non-dual spiritual teacher in the lineage of Adyashanti.  She was a co-founder of the Kundalini Research Network and established Shanti River Center in Ashland, Oregon, where she offers transpersonal counseling, non-dual educational programs and webinars, retreats and satsang gatherings. She has done assessments and consulting with over 3000 people who have had spiritual awakenings, and authored “The Kundalini Guide” and “The Awakening Guide”, self-help books for people in an awakening process.