Conscious Ageing – Video Archive2018-03-20T10:53:16+00:00

On this page you find:

  1.   The recordings of the 4th season in the sequence of their appearance
  2.   The recordings of the encore series from October 2017
  3.    The encore series (May/June 2017), 
  4.    All the recordings of the original CONSCIOUS AGEING series (Nov.2016 – April 2017), respectively posted in chronological order of the program

Here the episodes of season 4 of  CONSCIOUS AGEING from February to April 2018

00:00 Introductory remarks and how best to watch and participate. “Doc” Amitay offers a few words of his own
04:50 First questions: What has changed for men, especially older men who grew up in that earlier time? He responds.  

06:55 “Personal failure” is a common blame men put upon themselves.

08:30 Many women are leaving relationships.

09:30 Heidi asks why men don’t seem so interested in “interiority” and why women don’t understand the dedication of men, though expressed differently.

12:00 Doc Amitay looks at socially constructed views of sameness.  A slow process.

16:00 Living together, if possible, is better for all. How to understand the other.

18:25 The myth of retirement. Alternatives.
20:50 Mark’s story (briefly)with self-blaming.

22:24 Doc Amitay responds by explaining “locus of control”.  Order vs. chaos.

25:55 He advises googleing Martin Seligman’s “Positive Psychology” for help with the Learned Helplessness theory of depression. Seigman’s Six Virtues: 
1. Wisdom and Knowledge, especially about oneself

  1. Courage
  2. Humanity and Love
  3. Justice – But not social justice warriors! Not fighting against mythical enemies!

32:00 Detour into Eric Berne’s Games People Play. Using these virtues.

36:00 The huge growth of older people as a fraction of the population (still detouring!)

38:58 Back to the Six Virtues:

  1. Temperance (self control, prudence, caution, discretion, humility and modesty!)
  2. 41:16 Transcendence (especially important for older people) includes Gratitude, Appreciation of Beauty, Hope and Optimism, Forgiveness and Mercy, Zest, Passion, Enthusiasm, Playfulness and Humor.

46:00 Importance of lifelong development for the final virtues to blossom. Heidi’s self-admitted problem with perfectionism and self criticism. Oren expands. Lack of introspection among young people.

52:10 Importance of perspective.

55:00 Creativity and novelty until our last breath! Role of Psychedelics in diminishing the fear of death.

57:20 At this point we lost internet on our end and though Dr. Amitay waited, we could not return to wrap-up the show.  Oh, the vagaries of live broadcasting!

Later Dr. Amitay came in again for a short while to give his final thoughts – which then were cut off because of the missing host. As I cut this part away, he is writing a summary of his final remarks:

I think I was simply saying “…it changed my perspective and I learned to genuinely put others before myself and to devote myself to having a positive impact on the people with whom I interact. Doing this, while embracing the six virtues of positive psychology we have been discussing, has truly had an incredibly enriching effect on me, my life and my health.”

About Dr. Oren Amitay

Dr. Oren Amitay is a registered member of the College of Psychologists and has been working with clients and patients in various hospitals and in private practice since 2001. He provides psychotherapy and conducts psychological, personality, intelligence and parenting capacity assessments. He works with a diverse group of clients, ranging from late teens to seniors, one-on-one, in couples or families. He covers every theme imaginable, including issues related to school, work, relationships, family, sexuality, finances, major life transitions, depression, anxiety, to name a few.

He is part of: Ontario Psychological Association: Public Education Committee Member, 2009-present   Ontario Psychological Association: Board of Directors, Toronto Area Representative, 2009-2012    Ontario Psychological Association, 2007-present     The College of Psychologists of Ontario, 2006-present

The public came to know him in 2016 as an outspoken defender for freedom of speech, especially since his public appearances together with Dr. Jordan Peterson.

Visit his website: http://docamitay.com/

His Facebook Page

His YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/DocAmitay

Dr. Amitay on Twitter: https://twitter.com/docamitay

Books by Dr. Jordan Peterson, highly recommended friend and ally of Dr.Oren Amitay

12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos

Maps of Meaning: The Architecture of Belief

About Gina Donaldson

Gina writes:

My Service –  I started creating Personal Passage Planning in Jan 2016 and formally launched it in Sept 2016. My inspiration for creating Personal Passage Planning arose from seeing the aftermath that followed the death of a parent, spouse and a child.  Friends and family were deeply grieving and yet there was so much work to be done. Even if they were the executor, they were in no way prepared for their role or the process. They also had to search the home for required documentation and were frustrated by all those passwords on cell phones and computers.  Why?  Well, in the time leading up to death they continued to hope for a better outcome and then were overwhelmed by the reality that the end was drawing near. They couldn’t bring themselves to have the important conversations about what needed to be done and what comes next.   I bring a systematic and highly tailored approach to change.  My passion is to enable people to deal with change through a thorough, compassionate and respectful approach that is worthy of their trust.  I guide my clients in understanding the importance of preparing for life events and creating a personalized “Life Log”. Together we create this go-to resource contains key documentation, information and client instructions so that they and those they entrust “Know Your Way”. Clients learn why it is up to them to take responsibility to “Know Your Way” and the importance of lessening the burden on others and loved ones who may step in to assist them or find themselves left behind.  My key areas of interest and professional development are ageing and grief. 

00:00 Introductions and orientation
01:48 Dr. Roger Jahnke and his introduction

03:10 His background, getting into Chi Gong

05:10 Now he trains others to Chi Gong and Tai Chi teachers who teach people to teach themselves, “an enthusiastic citizen with a strong intention for the potential of the human race…”

06:15 The false promise of normal medicine. Without vitality, even when he works with hospitals, because of the system

9:00 He sees humans a self-regenerating biological system which is infused with a mental-emotional capacity and a spiritual “feature”, a body-mind-spirit (the three treasures)
10:25 Yes, your health problem was caused by you…but… it’s free!

12:38 Heidi quotes an Indian guest’s critique of the pharmacological industry. So she asks how do we know what’s really good for us?

14:02 Roger’s comeback: stop being hypnotized by “everybody’s doing it”  Some examples!

16:00 A few slides, a definition of immortality that includes a concept of ourselves that is eternally well, cannot get sick, and does not die. He expands.

21:30 He asks why not at some point have a panel of like minded people from among our guests and audience. Details…

25:00 We feel confused so we follow the trend of being confused.

27:18 Heidi asks how do you get people with clearly unhealthy habits, for example, smoking, to stop?  Don’t we need a consciousness shift first? “Teach what you aspire to know.”
30:25 His website, contact info, etc. shown on a slide

33:30 He responds to motivation to change with “spiritual alchemy.” Then he describes his spirituality: the Transphysical Paradigm

36:10 How to find a way into a mind-set change to a kind of egalitarian governance, etc

38:10 “How can I reveal the wellness that is present?” Heidi and Mark both add remarks.  How do get get the courage to just “jump over” the edges of the current paradigm?

41:37 Roger replies: Destiny!  Some do it and others cannot. Anomalies!  Examples from quantum physics.  Paradoxes.

46:00 But everyone deserves a chance to try. Comments by a viewer

48:00 Growing number of studies re: Tai Chi, Yoga and Chi Gong!
50:40 A breath practice: filling belly and then the chest with air, holding for a count or 3 to 7 (or so) and very slowly exhaling,  then one or two normal breaths and then repeat, for as many cycles as you wish.  This nengages receptors in the chest that produce neurotransmitters that produce a feeling in well-being as you exhale. Write down what you feel in various parts of your body.

Mark reports a feeling of expansion, Heidi reports an altered state of consciousness.  

1:00:00 This is the free “medication” that the body produces itself!  Roger proposes a second session, possible group activities.  Goodbye’s

Click on the links below to find books by Dr. Roger Jahnke

The Healer Within: Using Traditional Chinese Techniques To Release Your Body’s Own Medicine, Movement, Massage, Meditation, Breathing

The Healer Within by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

The Healing Promise of Qi: Creating Extraordinary Wellness Through Qigong and Tai Chi

The Healing promise of Qi by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

Smiling From The Heart by Marcus Santer (Author), Dr Roger Jahnke(Foreword)

 Natural, drug-free solutions to depression, stress, anxiety, worry and fear.

Smiling from the Heart Foreword by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

About Dr. Roger Jahnke

Roger Jahnke, OMD, the creator of Tai Chi Easy™, is a doctor of Chinese Medicine with 35 years in clinical Chinese medicine, 9 trips to China, plus 45 years of combined Qigong (Chi Kung) and Tai Chi (Taiji) experience.  He is the Founder of “The Healer Within Foundation” and the Founder and Director of the “Institute of integral Qigong and Tai Chi”.  He has trained well over 1000 Mind-Body Practice Leaders who have taught many 1000s of citizens mind-body practices — Tai Chi and Qigong.  He has lectured at AMA, American Hospital Association, American College of Health Care Executives, Mayo Clinic. He serves as a consultant to hospitals, social service agencies, and corporations in Complementary and Integrative Medicine (CAM / IM), wellness, and medical cost reduction.

Dr Jahnke and the IIQTC have been involved in numerous research projects. In 2005, Dr. Jahnke was appointed to co-convene a National Expert Meeting on Qi Gong and Tai Chi in collaboration with the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and the National Blueprint for Active Aging. The panel of experts agreed that the major challenge to the wide dissemination of these profound practices has been the exclusive dependence on masters or experts to transmit the teachings.

Dr. Jahnke is the author of “The Healer Within” (Harper San Francisco, 1999) used in body/mind programs worldwide. His most recent book, The Healing Promise of Qi (McGraw-Hill, 2002) has become an instant classic in the western literature on Qigong and Tai Chi.

These are the time stamps of the full video where this exercise is taken from.

Please watch it HERE

00:00 Introductions and orientation
01:48 Dr. Roger Jahnke and his introduction

03:10 His background, getting into Chi Gong

05:10 Now he trains others to Chi Gong and Tai Chi teachers who teach people to teach themselves, “an enthusiastic citizen with a strong intention for the potential of the human race…”

06:15 The false promise of normal medicine. Without vitality, even when he works with hospitals, because of the system

9:00 He sees humans a self-regenerating biological system which is infused with a mental-emotional capacity and a spiritual “feature”, a body-mind-spirit (the three treasures)
10:25 Yes, your health problem was caused by you…but… it’s free!

12:38 Heidi quotes an Indian guest’s critique of the pharmacological industry. So she asks how do we know what’s really good for us?

14:02 Roger’s comeback: stop being hypnotized by “everybody’s doing it”  Some examples!

16:00 A few slides, a definition of immortality that includes a concept of ourselves that is eternally well, cannot get sick, and does not die. He expands.

21:30 He asks why not at some point have a panel of like minded people from among our guests and audience. Details…

25:00 We feel confused so we follow the trend of being confused.

27:18 Heidi asks how do you get people with clearly unhealthy habits, for example, smoking, to stop?  Don’t we need a consciousness shift first? “Teach what you aspire to know.”
30:25 His website, contact info, etc. shown on a slide

33:30 He responds to motivation to change with “spiritual alchemy.” Then he describes his spirituality: the Transphysical Paradigm

36:10 How to find a way into a mind-set change to a kind of egalitarian governance, etc

38:10 “How can I reveal the wellness that is present?” Heidi and Mark both add remarks.  How do get get the courage to just “jump over” the edges of the current paradigm?

41:37 Roger replies: Destiny!  Some do it and others cannot. Anomalies!  Examples from quantum physics.  Paradoxes.

46:00 But everyone deserves a chance to try. Comments by a viewer

48:00 Growing number of studies re: Tai Chi, Yoga and Chi Gong!
50:40 A breath practice: filling belly and then the chest with air, holding for a count or 3 to 7 (or so) and very slowly exhaling,  then one or two normal breaths and then repeat, for as many cycles as you wish.  This nengages receptors in the chest that produce neurotransmitters that produce a feeling in well-being as you exhale. Write down what you feel in various parts of your body.

Mark reports a feeling of expansion, Heidi reports an altered state of consciousness.  

1:00:00 This is the free “medication” that the body produces itself!  Roger proposes a second session, possible group activities.  Goodbye’s

Click on the links below to find books by Dr. Roger Jahnke

The Healer Within: Using Traditional Chinese Techniques To Release Your Body’s Own Medicine, Movement, Massage, Meditation, Breathing

The Healer Within by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

The Healing Promise of Qi: Creating Extraordinary Wellness Through Qigong and Tai Chi

The Healing promise of Qi by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

Smiling From The Heart by Marcus Santer (Author), Dr Roger Jahnke(Foreword)

 Natural, drug-free solutions to depression, stress, anxiety, worry and fear.

Smiling from the Heart Foreword by Dr Jahnke on AMAZON

About Dr. Roger Jahnke

Roger Jahnke, OMD, the creator of Tai Chi Easy™, is a doctor of Chinese Medicine with 35 years in clinical Chinese medicine, 9 trips to China, plus 45 years of combined Qigong (Chi Kung) and Tai Chi (Taiji) experience.  He is the Founder of “The Healer Within Foundation” and the Founder and Director of the “Institute of integral Qigong and Tai Chi”.  He has trained well over 1000 Mind-Body Practice Leaders who have taught many 1000s of citizens mind-body practices — Tai Chi and Qigong.  He has lectured at AMA, American Hospital Association, American College of Health Care Executives, Mayo Clinic. He serves as a consultant to hospitals, social service agencies, and corporations in Complementary and Integrative Medicine (CAM / IM), wellness, and medical cost reduction.

Dr Jahnke and the IIQTC have been involved in numerous research projects. In 2005, Dr. Jahnke was appointed to co-convene a National Expert Meeting on Qi Gong and Tai Chi in collaboration with the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and the National Blueprint for Active Aging. The panel of experts agreed that the major challenge to the wide dissemination of these profound practices has been the exclusive dependence on masters or experts to transmit the teachings.

Dr. Jahnke is the author of “The Healer Within” (Harper San Francisco, 1999) used in body/mind programs worldwide. His most recent book, The Healing Promise of Qi (McGraw-Hill, 2002) has become an instant classic in the western literature on Qigong and Tai Chi.

About Dr. Helen Lavretsky

Dr. Helen Lavretsky is a Professor In-Residence and the Semel Scholar in Integrative Mental Health in the Department of Psychiatry at UCLA, a geriatric psychiatrist with research interest in complementary and integrative medicine and mind-body approaches to treatment and prevention of mood and cognitive disorders in older adults. She received the 2001-2007 and 2010-2015 Career Development awards from NIMH, and 2015-2020 Research Career award from the National Institute of Complementary and Integrative Health, and other prestigious research awards. Her current research studies include an NIMH-funded study of biomarkers of brain aging in geriatric depression, PCORI funded study of treatment resistant depression in older adults, and the NCCAM funded study of complementary use of Tai-Chi to improve antidepressant response in geriatric depression, as well as a yoga study for women with cardiovascular disease and memory complains. Dr. Lavretsky is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and a Fellow of the American College of Neuropsychopharmacology.

During the show Helen shows some slides about her topic. You can download them HERE

presented by  Helen Lavretsky and spoken by Heidi Hornlein

Timestamps for the whole presentation available at  https://thewisdomfactory.net/helen-lavretsky/

About Dr. Helen Lavretsky

Dr. Helen Lavretsky is a Professor In-Residence and the Semel Scholar in Integrative Mental Health in the Department of Psychiatry at UCLA, a geriatric psychiatrist with research interest in complementary and integrative medicine and mind-body approaches to treatment and prevention of mood and cognitive disorders in older adults. She received the 2001-2007 and 2010-2015 Career Development awards from NIMH, and 2015-2020 Research Career award from the National Institute of Complementary and Integrative Health, and other prestigious research awards. Her current research studies include an NIMH-funded study of biomarkers of brain aging in geriatric depression, PCORI funded study of treatment resistant depression in older adults, and the NCCAM funded study of complementary use of Tai-Chi to improve antidepressant response in geriatric depression, as well as a yoga study for women with cardiovascular disease and memory complains. Dr. Lavretsky is a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association and a Fellow of the American College of Neuropsychopharmacology.

During the show Helen shows some slides about her topic. You can download them HERE

You’re never too old! Women and Sexuality

with Andrea Eisenberg MD, FACOG

Timestamps

00:00 Intro and how to watch the show, make comments and ask questions

04:54 Meeting Dr. Eisenberg and how she got interested in Obstetrics and Gynecology

05:30 Heidi reports how her early experiences in ob/gyn had been with male doctors.  Andrea puts it a bit in context by pointing out that ob/gyn includes surgery which traditionally attracted men.And it’s not an easy life style for women who want a “traditional” route.
07:30 What about the older women you meet? Andrea reports that 60 year olds may have no one to talk to…and she’s often “it”.  She always asks about the patient’s relationships as a matter of course.  And she gets invited to weddings!

10:15 Changes that come with menopause, both physical and psychological.  And just what IS normal?

12:48 What “should” women be like at menopause or later? Pleasing their partner is a biggie!

14:50  Changes in practice over the years, questions from viewers, including from Martin Ucik, author of “SEX PURPOSE LOVE”

16:50  Those pesky changes! Lack of estrogen! Treating some of the common concerns.  How women value themselves.
24:30 The importance of companionship, especially for older couples. What happens when estrogen production stops.

26:20 Viewer questions.  Heidi recalls the relief from the fear of pregnancy that menopause brought. Compare with men’s fear of impotence. Other ways to be intimate.  Getting in touch with the body.

34:28 General medical advice for older women. Cancer and heart disease are the #1 and #2 diseases for older women so everything you heard about staying healthy.  Bladder infections can be so mild that many women don’t recognize it.  

37:12  Back to younger women:  What about menstrual pain? Choices of birth control?  Andrea describes several, some of which are new to us.

41:10 Hormone replacements, with slightly increased levels of breast cancer. History of decreasing levels of estrogen in birth control meds.

48:20 Women and pain! Men’s and women’s ignorance of each other!

51:30 How is it living with teen-age girls in this age, Heidi asks Andrea. Men and women in the workplace.  LGBT questions
56:20 Final questions: Mark asks if she ever seems like a “priest” for non-religious women.
57:40 We notice a final question from our viewers about returning to sexuality after a long period of monogamy.

58.52 Final remarks: Menopause is not the end of a woman’s life!

 

About Andrea Eisenberg MD, FACOG

Andrea Eisenberg

Andrea Eisenberg is a board certified ob/gyn in the metro Detroit area. She has been in private practice for 25 years, serving women from puberty through menopause. Through her years of practice, she has been let into the most intimate moments of her patients’ lives and shared in their secrets, heartaches, joys, losses, victories. She enjoys the variety her specialty brings to her doorstep including seeing adolescents as they enter adulthood, women starting their families, women navigating through menopause and the years beyond, and everything in between. She has physician-patient relationships that have spanned many years and generations. More recently, she has begun writing to share experiences of her work as a way to capture the human side of medicine and what doctors feel in caring for patients. She has documented these stories on her blog, www.secretlifeofobgyn.wordpress.com. She has been published in Intima, A Journal of Narrative Medicine and Pulse, Voices From the Heart of Medicine. She is also a guest blogger on KevinMD and Doximity. 

Below season 3 of Conscious Ageing from October to November 2017

Is Life Extension Possible?

with Nicola Bagalà

00:00 Introductions and instructions

02:04 Presenting Nicola Bagalà

03:04 How did a young Nicola get interested in questions about ageing?

04:50 Other aspects of Nicola’s life

06:15 Typical ways we look at the last decades of life and how do you see them, Nicola:  “Nobody ever died because they were too healthy.”

08:40 Pacemaker cells? “Running out of cells” is a common way of ageing.  And ageing ITSELF is a sort of disease, depending on definitions.  More accurately we might consider ageing as a set of diseases.

11:20 The processes that lead to , i.e, Alzheimers or cancer or essentially the same as those “diseases” themselves.  At younger ages, these processes are not yet pathological in their expression

13:05 So, if we could control these disease processes, could we, say, live forever?  Well, that depends, Nicola replies. But the point of rejuvenation is not eternal life but good health.

15:52 What technology? Some clarification to begin with, like metabolism. There are 7-9 areas of accumulative damage which we may be able to treat area by area.  A series of different therapies.

19:27 Heidi asks about “inner technologies” which are not included in the conversation so far (Ken Wilber’s left side quadrants). Nicola asks for clarification

22:50 He sees the “left side” as still part of what affects the objective approaches he describes.

24:29 He describes some of the anti-ageing therapies. But they’re not available yet!  He relates the cumulative effects of multiple therapies that will still takes decades to become available, for our children and theirs

29:20 Currently promising therapies: senolytics which i finding ways to search out and remove senescent cells so that natural immunities will function better because the cells are more healthy.

33:20 Mark reports on a personal experience with healing, concluding that he must have the “proper” proportion  of senescent cells.  Ha-ha! And Nicola integrates the experience into his understanding of healing and now back to senolytics.

35:00 Interesting results in mice, human trials may be soon.  A comment from a watcher who notes some caution necessary, perhaps an autoimmune problem?

37:57 Lifespan.io and the Life Extension Advocacy Foundation (LEAF) for more info about fine tuning how this targeting works. LEAF is an American charity for raising funding for ageing research

40:35 Ageing is not a very popular topic!  Also some technical experimentation by us!

42:05 What about telomeres? Telomeres are structures on the ends of chromosomes which “wear out” with age and normal cell division leading to a critical shortness so that they no longer allow for further division, hence ageing. But they allow all cells to continue to divide, including cancerous ones which take special advantage of the telomerase enzyme to grow vigorously.

43:40 Aubrey de Grey of the SENS Foundation could avoid the telomere problem with the infusion of stem cells! Another program called ALT (Alternative Lengthening of Telomeres) is underway to understand how cancers use this means to propagate.

46:47 Watchers’ questions: What does your guest say is the definition of life? Nicola’s response is interesting!  Age may be a factor in an unexpected way!  A spirited discussion follows! Nicola insists that the central issue is not age, per se, but HEALTH!

53:14 Marks so far unasked question, “What the hell is society going to do with all these old people collecting Social Security and old age pensions, etc?”  Nicola has thought about this!

57:00 Reactions from watchers.  Is coconut oil important for Alzheimer’s? No info from Nicola.

58:40 Last remarks from Nicola: Being sick is not fun. Getting sick is much more probable as we age so let’s begin working on

59:43 Thank you’s and goodbye’s and upcoming shows.

Some links:

Leafscience.org

Lifespan.io

#CrowdfundTheCure for #aging at www.lifespan.io

A TedTalk by Aubrey de Grey: https://www.ted.com/talks/aubrey_de_grey_says_we_can_avoid_aging/up-next

A recent article by Nicolà Bagalà: http://transhumanist-party.org/2017/10/17/the-good-sides-of-aging/

Nicola Bagalà is on Facebook in Italian: https://www.facebook.com/nicola.bagala

Also in English on Facebook: Rejuvenaction

About Nicola Bagala

A long-standing expat and a scientist at heart, Nicola is a mathematician with a varied range of interests touching several scientific disciplines and arts as well. Although what initially drove him to science was an interest in astronomy, physics, and  exact sciences in general, since 2011 he has gradually developed an ever-growing curiosity about biology, genetics, and evolution. This new passion arose from a somewhat sudden ‘discovery’ of the ageing process: Although he of course already knew that every human being is apparently doomed to frailty, disease, and death past a handful of decades of life, he had somehow neglected this obvious fact until some life events made it obvious. This realisation led to another, unexpected and exciting discovery: Not only an ever-increasing number of scientists consider biological ageing as a pathological process amenable to medical intervention, but some of them have already come up with plans to put an end to age-related frailty and finally make one of the oldest dreams of humanity come true—the wisdom of age combined with the vigour of youth.

 
 
 
 
 
 

In particular, Nicola was inspired by the figure of dr. Aubrey de Grey, the most vocal and tenacious advocate of rejuvenation biotechnologies aimed at rejuvenating the human body. After reading de Grey’s book Ending Aging in 2014, Nicola decided to become an activist and launched his advocacy website Rejuvenaction, whose goal is explaining in very simple terms what biological ageing is and how science may put an end to it, as well as addressing the concerns of those who fear defeating ageing might have adverse effects on people’s live or society.

Since 2016, Nicola is a volunteer for the Life Extension Advocacy Foundation, a nonprofit advocating for rejuvenation science and crowdfunding basic scientific research to speed up the coming of future rejuvenation biotechnologies. In the future, he would like to get a second master’s degree, in biology.

He also writes on his personal blog from time to time and works on his own free science fiction ebook series—again, when time allows.

00:00 Introductions and how to watch the show

01:45 Presenting Susan Farling and her first remarks

03:00 Her growing professional/personal reasons for paying more attention to people around retirement age

03:30 The developmental stages as we age, from young years on

04:40 Ageism begins when we’re quite young also.  Things we notice as children but without any explanation.

06:12 How to live in/with an ageing body in an ageist society. And you don’t have to be old to be a victim of ageism. Some examples

07:50 Ageism accelerates as we get older; a kind of disrespect. Is embedded in language.  Examples: “dear” “young lady” “giovanotto” (young man). Importance of context, tone, etc.

11:10 Making clear distinctions, no black and white labeling (or reacting!) The internalised ageism against both ourselves and others. Examples: the difficulty we have with the word “old” and how do we want to be called, will I look ridiculous in “those” clothes, using age as an excuse for letting others to something for us as not so capable.

13:52 Comments from viewers

14:50 Susan gives an example of her own ageism based on shame, which helped start her on this new interest in Ageism. And Heidi gives a counterexample!

16:40 A viewer contrasts Eastern (Indian) vs. Western views of ageing.  Susan wonders is the disengaged elder is part of that Eastern view.  Mark offers a counterexample.

19:08 Complicated! Increased consciousness as a great help. Heidi expands. Infringing on autonomy.

22:00 Heidi asks how Susan brings up ageing issues with her clients  She says they don’t initially show up for those reasons. But she is refocusing her efforts currently.

23:38 what about the possibility that with such a large percentage of the population being older than EVER, is there a new “LEVEL of consciousness” emerging that has reached a significant influence on public life (and they VOTE!).  Heidi insists on visibility!

25:30 Gerotranscendence: Susan recommends: 
MATURING INTO GEROTRANSCENDENCE by Lars Tornstam, Ph.D. which you can find at: http://www.atpweb.org/jtparchive/trps-43-11-02-166.pdf

26:28 A viewer asks that Susan talk about the hopelessness that some older people feel about approaching death. Susan responds with suggestions. Conscious dying is a new and growing topic.

29:38: The taboo on speaking about death: Go to “The Death Chicks”. Undoing the taboo: people who make and decorate their own caskets and set them as furniture in their homes.

32:27 Progress but at the price of experience, but back to Susan’s book, “One Choice at a Time; A practical guide to wellbeing” available at her web site: www.susanfarling.com and is based on people in transition (not necessarily getting older) with stories and exercise like the “Friendship Filters”.

36:46 Heidi asks if there is a “vocabulary” of Ageism. Susan replies affirmatively and will send us a link.
39:08 What about women who fear “looking their age”? Quite a discussion follows.  What about post menopause liberation?

43:41 Another viewer asks what might be the best of both (eastern and Western) worlds. As examples of western trends, Susan brings up joint living situations. Mark mentions current research into healthy ageing, of gerontology rather that geriatrics.
47:00 But going back to vocabulary, what should we call ourselves?  Elders sounds good. Some rewriting of stories is necessary.

49:29 How to approach transitions without beating ourselves up.  Find others who are also transitioning, or have done so recently.  Look to our “elders”!  See what can be finally developed!  Dogs, choirs, etc.

55:05 We become much more tolerant of views, less dualistic, less judgemental, more individualistic.

56:10 A viewer asks, perhaps about his own father, how older adults can overcome Ageism.  Engage the older one re: what they are interested in.  Importance of humor!
59:30 Final remarks, thank you’s, goodbye’s. “Live long and prosper!”

About Susan Farling

Like many of the people she serves, Susan’s career path has taken several turns and shifts. As well as turning to the online world as a coach, she’s been a counselor and psychotherapist in private practice for almost thirty years.

Susan started her education with an undergraduate degree in drawing and painting. Her creative interests have been a theme throughout her life. Her curiosity about what made some people more resilient than others led her to work as a registered nurse primarily in acute care psychiatry. Wanting to expand the opportunity she had to understand and support her client’s perspectives and well-being, she went back to university to get her master’s degree in counseling psychology. As well as her formal education, she counts as influences poets, yogis, artists, mystics, musicians, and meditators.

Susan treasures her relationships with her family, friends, and community. She practices chi kung, yoga and reiki. She is a lover of the fun of pot lucks; of mist and rain; of trees, dogs, and silence.

Susan’s book “One Choice at a Time: A Practical Guide to Well-Being”  is an accessible and engaging guidebook designed to help the reader develop and maintain well-being, resourcefulness, and resilience. Step by step exercises are interwoven with compelling stories of her clients using, integrating and benefitting from the practices described. You can purchase it by contacting Susan HERE

Retirees who wonder why they should bother to get up in the morning turn to coach Susan Farling MA, RCC for support in finding their motivation to design their ‘best for them’ lives.

Visit Susan’s website HERE

Here are some of the resources Susan Farling told us about during the live broadcast:

The article on language:  There are many others.

 
Community building on-line:
 
Excellent site for women over 50+
www. sixtyandme.com  
 
Varied – men and women – some inspirational
 
Offers a selection of sites:
 
 
 

The Power of Change 

with Fred Jones

 

01:36 Intro of our guest, Fred Jones

02:50 what young people do we know? Contrast with Fred, whom young people keep young.  How he got involved in working with young people: Toastmasters had an “orphan program” for young people.  His own difficulties he had speaking as a kid.  He hopes to develop groups for youth around the world to develop LEADERS!

08:18 Fred’s explains how it works, by allowing the kids to run the show within a structure based on roleplaying: i,e: count how many times people interrupted someone,count how many “filler words” were used, who wants to tell a joke, timekeeper, host, questioner, speaker, etc, plus how to give feedback (“the secret sauce!”).  They end up coaching each other!  It all builds self-confidence and communication skills.

12:45 Mark asks how old are these people? 6-16.  Often siblings in the same family! It’s something the whole family can participate in!  And parents love it.
14:35 Heidi: Are you pioneering a whole new education system? Red talks about the current school system’s limitations. His efforts to work as an “addendum” to regular school hours, from homes, and with Google Hangouts, or other platforms, etc.

17:04 LEADERSHIP is the goal! A viewer’s question leads Fred to explain what he means by leadership skills

18:30 How constant are the groups?  More boys or girls?  Some older members can run groups for younger ones.  How will he “run” groups in Victoria, BC when he’s in Australia soon?  Fred says they’ll run it themselves! And he has a manual, which is mostly for parents, called “Becoming Brilliant! – Coaches Playbook.

21:44 Will you be affiliated with Toastmasters when you go to Australia.  Not much, says Fred and elaborates.

23:00 How did this project get off the ground?  Homeschool pèarents seem to love this so we get lots of homeschool groups and doing a lot online.No financial support is needed!

26:00 How to reach Fred: OurFutureLeaders.Ca – with many materials for getting started.  Fred stresses humility.

29:30 How work is changing: online, different locations, project commitments rather than long term positions,

32:00 Comparing present day leadership with Fred’s vision.  He asks: Where are our leaders?  The importance of beginning young!

35:00 Where is the opposition to such changes? Fred refers to a Book called ”Turn the Ship Around” which changed the whole destiny of a nuclear submarine which had developed a reputation as a terrible U.S. ship to be assigned to. Bottom up rather than top down.
38:55 Heidi plugs Frederic Laloux’s “Reinventing Organizations”.

40:00 Fred and a viewer plug Simon Sinek’s books and then he turns to explore the theme of The Power of Change and how not to get the same old, same old. Fred’s new lifestyle, homeless, on the move, listening to Ted Talks, second childhood!

44:00 the Baby boomer bulge and how it is changing our views on ageing.  It’s a big plus for diving into his “new” career coaching young people.  Let’s do it!  Heidi expands!

50:00 Fred starts winding down by quoting Nelson Mandela: “Education is the most powerful weapon you can use to change the world.” He saw how conditions in Zambia and Zimbabwe had deteriorated with independence but without education.

56:30 Fred is excited about low level satellite internet coverage for the whole world.

58:00 Fred’s final words, thank you’s, goodbye’s.

About Fred Jones

Fred writes about himself:

I have noted that when I have made changes in my life, it has a positive effect. Examples of the changes is that I have moved and lived in a few places during my lifetime. Here are examples:
13 years old – Moved with my family from Thunder Bay in Northern Ontario to Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
20 years old – hitched hiked to Europe and through Africa and settled in South Africa 1 year later.
44 years old – returned to Canada and lived in Toronto after traveling for 30,000 km throughout Canada.
67 years old – moved to Victoria, British Columbia where I am currently located.
70 years old – traveled for 5 months through Africa, from Cape Town to Cairo.
 
As background, I also am involved in Toastmasters for the past 14 years and have acquired the Distinguished Toastmaster award. I also have been involved in indoor rowing for about 16 years (on rowing machines) and have participated in two World Championships held in Boston and have rowed the equivalent of more than twice around the world. (current distance is over 97,000 km).

Evolutionary Peer Mentoring: Growth Groups for Older People? 

with Rey Carr

00:00 Introductory remarks about the show

01:23 introducing Rey Carr

02:50 What’s Peer Mentoring?  As he defines it, it’s for 55 plussers who can’t share with others, who feel isolated.

5.15 Mark expresses contrast between the way he and heidi are (for example) and how their parents were as they aged.

06:22 Rey gives credit to Susan Farling’s  “Unmasking Aging” contribution, points out lack of mission of our parents, no purpose after “work life” ended.  How to entice older people to join a self-mentoring group. 
Rey points out tool  no. 1: listening, as in “active listening” so people feel heard.

10:00 Tool no. 2: asking good questions which promotes talking about things that matter.  
11:20 A more evolutionary principle at work, perhaps unspoken, of wanting to give back!

12:15 Can this happen via internet? Yes, sort of but in person is best.  And there are such groups in British Columbia which send people to isolated people just for such purposes.

14:10 Most groups are volunteers but some public funding is sometimes available.  Also there are gov’t. “Seniors Helping Seniors” groups

15:50  The “peer” aspect of these groups adds a quite different flavor

17:00 Not necessarily looking for advice!  Differences between men and women, however stereotyped.

19:20 Informal groups have flexible rules, which is not OK for all people.
21:20 An example of a more structured group approach

23:10  A typical way to end a group meeting: with gratitude

25:00 How does Rey induce such a supportive atmosphere? He doesn’t see himself as  group “leader”.

27:00 heidi sees Rey as really being a leader of the sort the world needs now but not top-down.  Similarities with Otto Sharmer’s “Theory U”.

28:40 Is Rey’s presence required for meetings to continue?
32:05 A viewer has written a cogent remark about leadership.  Rey looks back at the hierarchical nature of professional meetings early in his career, where rank was shown by the order in which they appeared for meetings.  The opposite of peer approaches

35:40  Do some potential candidates for peer mentoring sometimes want something more structured?  For example, adolescents couldn’t see the structure but it was present.  Some olders want some clear structure.

41:00 In the program title we speak of “Growth Groups”…so what’s the growth?  Brain plasticity, as opposed to traditional stages of growth, shows unending possible growth stages, especially in Transition periods between stages of life
42:15 The Peer Recovery Movement for people who have had long periods in their lives in therapy, sometimes called “Mental Health System Survivors”(!) Quite revolutionary!

45:25 His book! Downloadable at:https://spiritmentor.wordpress.com/2017/05/26/evolutionary-peer-mentoring-a-growth-group-for-seniors-2/
Or at our website: https://thewisdomfactory.net/conscious-ageing-info-page/rey-carr/

48:00 Well known mentoring relationships are included
51:55 The short title: Shaping the Future.  The long version adds: 150+ Canadian Mentoring Relationships that Make Canada Great, Creative, innovative, Successful and Welcoming

52:45 Mentoring is very popular in Canada, is included in all public and private school curriculums

53:25 Is mentoring a profession? Some professionalising going on, but it’s not at all necessary.

55:00 Do mentors give advice?  Um, sometimes but not a lot, a bit of a story. Discretion is necessary.

58:30 Differences between coaching and mentoring? Mentoring is more about learning while coaching more often is about behavior change.  But both use listening as a powerful tool. Results vs. relationships

1:01:10 Goodbye’s, thank you’s, some gratitude!

About Rey Carr

 
Over the years I’ve written dozens of biographies of myself for various publications, lectures, or workshops. I’ve never been completely satisfied with any of them. Although I’m proud of the peer training manuals I have written, the lectures and training workshops I have led, the magazine I publish, and my contributions to social media, most of my current life if centered around a keyboard and my family.
 
 
I think of myself a “spiritual activist.” That is, I think of myself as continually changing, curious about new ideas and often taking them on for a while to see how they fit. I’m a member of several regular groups without which I think my productivity and happiness as a post-retirement university professor and corporate executive would have withered and left me without a life compass.
 
 
I’ve obtained different degrees, the latest being a Ph.D. in Metaphysics, and credentials, the latest being a Nationally Certified Peer Coach, all of which I’ve found and still find meaningful, and I have a number of interests or hobbies that I enjoy. But amongst my own developmental evolution, I live by a set of seven core beliefs that I call my “personal anthropology.”  These include: All Life Has a Purpose; We Are in Heaven; Fear Cannot Guide Us; Knowing is Tough, Asking is Harder; Without You I am Nothing; and Growth in Life is a Paradox.
 
 
I’m glad to share my more traditional resume at http://www.peer.ca/racres.html  

Horses as Catalysts for Healthy Ageing

with Alice MacGillivray

00:00 Intro to the show and how to watch and comment and Alice says hello

01:50 Introducing Alice and her first remarks about ageing and being a girl crazy kid but not realising her dream until close to 60.

04:30 But in the meantime… dreams of being a vet back then, ongoing interest in animals, parks management, eventually in leadership and learning that has been very helpful in understanding horses!

06:40 Differences between prey animals like horses and predatory ones like dogs.

07:35 Some neuroscience: humans and dogs tend to be left brained while horses are right brained and in the moment.  Importance of just “being” with a horse, a la horse whisperers.

11:15 How to get involved with horses without actually owning or even riding one.  How to tune into another being! So unlike our “work” life.

13:15 How can hoses be sneaky?  Their intelligence.

18:15 Heidi asks how to “at an age” or with special needs get involved with a horse.  Special benefits to older people.

22:20 A short presentation, (after brief tech problems) some stories. Benefits of connecting with nature, and with horses! The Century Club…

29:45 “Therapy” horses (short “only we talk” period glitch at 31:29 – 33:55).

34:30 Talk about her book!  How it  happened…”Riding Horseback in Purple”. How to have a great relationship with a horse as a lead into a relationship with one’s self, meditation.
38:28 More about other ways to “have” or relate to horses.

44:40  Why choose a horse over a dog? Not a yes/no choice.

46:52 How about the fear of falling?  It’s complicated!

49:40 Mark asks why girls seem to like horses more than boys.  Interesting responses!

53:50 Notes on the slides. Big Trips, surprises, lots of ways to get involved, etc.
59:00 Contact info (Alice@4KM.net), last remarks, thank you’s and good bye’s.

About Alice MacGillivray

In the 1960s, when Alice got her first summer job as a veterinary assistant, it was “common knowledge” that women didn’t become veterinarians, especially for large animals.  Without putting up a fight, Alice set aside her career dreams (in her community it was common knowledge that women didn’t fight tradition).  But her love of animals never went away.  Her employment evolved over time, including work in several major park organizations and a program director position with a university.  She was the first person in her family to go beyond highschool.  She earned an undergraduate degree and an MA in Leadership in her 40s, and an MA in Human Development and a PhD in Human and Organizational Systems in her 50s.   Her children were living on their own by then.  In her late 50s, Alice—now working as a consultant from her home office—dared to revisit the dream of owning a horse.  She dove into research to see if this was possible.  Did she have the resources?  Could she develop the skills?  What sort of a support network might she develop?  How could she find the right horse?  The year she was going to turn 60, her horse stepped off the trailer and into her life.  And she has never regretted the decision.  
 
Alice’s website is www.4KM.net.
The Riding Horseback in Purple book siteis http://ridinghorsebackinpurple.4km.net/  

Here the episodes of the first encore series CONSCIOUS AGEING from May/June 2017

The new reality of an emerging generation – the over 50’s

with David Harry Stewart of AGEIST

00:00 Introductions, how to comment, etc.

03:33 David adds a bit of bio including nearly 3 years with Ageist magazine and explains his switch in focus to older “subjects” in front of his camera lens.

04:50 He kept getting older, but his subjects didn’t and that led to founding Ageist.

06:10 The media world hasn’t “caught up” with the new reality of this emerging demographic.  A brief history of changing stages on ageing and how that affects value systems and behavior.

8:00 The traditional system in italy, the importance of mindset.  The lack of self reflection until you reach a “certain age”.

11:00 The uniqueness that grows as we age, about the the mid-fifties or so.  New decisions become possible.

The example of Cynthia Adler.

16:00 Heidi’s experience, more examples

18:00 “The pharmaceutical industry has been very good to me…but…” and Mark’s experience. Lowell Ann’s comment.  David deconstructs “retirement”.

23:00 Reactions to AARP.  For many, retirement is now unthinkable.
26:10 The need for purpose – which could begin at an early age, and the difficulties of that!

29:40 Lowell Ann adds “meaning” to purpose. David brings up “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl.

31:16 Heidi plugs Jordan Peterson’s “Maps of Meaning”.  Mark plugs Ken Wilber. The importance of continuing to learn.  David takes off on curiosity.  Those who AREN’T curious and how do we relate to them?

39:04 Mark’s big “curiosity” 5 years ago.  Trait openness vs. conscientiousness.

42:20 How’s the magazine gowing? Feedback, reception? “Six Things to Do after 50” has over 125,000 views!   He add that he’d include in a do-over: importance of family/friends/community and some sort of spiritual relationship.  He’s been surprised how many older people meditate, religious practices, connection with nature, to something greater than self.

44:53 Heidi: There’s something more than you…and even you are something more than the you [that] you know!

45:16 So many of those Ageist reaches say they no longer feel invisible, especially women.  And David is good at making people LOOK cool!  A funny story about “self-empowerment”… VISUAL EMPOWERMENT COACHING! (Heidi’s term)

50:58 Heidi says he’s an archeologist! And david reveals a photographer’s secret: 80% of a portrait is set by the interpersonal relationship you establish. (which is what he’s done in our current interview!)

54:14 The magic unfolding of our interviews/conversations

56:00 David shows some photos from his website. How to connect: agei.st, also a newsletter

57:57 “Ageist” not as a pejorative  term, but in the sense of being “pro” ageist.

1:00:40 Thank you’s, good bye’s, final words

About David Harry Stewart | Founding Partner of AGEIST

For 35 years a highly successful award-winning photographer specializing in people-oriented advertising. He has partnered with numerous companies, bands and agencies to help them sell their products and build their brands across multiple cultures in various countries. His award-winning photographs have appeared in GQ, Esquire, Harper’s Bazaar, Glamour, Wired, Forbes, Interview, Time and on multiple covers for The New York Times Magazine and New York Magazine. Agency and brand clients include Vice Media, Nike, Adidas, Google, ZipCar, Coors, AT&T, Coke, Philip Morris, Toyota, Lexus, BMW, Corona, American Eagle, Gillette, Philips, Johnson&Johnson and many more. He is also frequently called upon to speak at events and universities across the country as an authority on the emerging leading edge group that is the focus of AGEIST. 

About Barbara Quick

Barbara Quick is a senior with a younger, positive attitude about life.  For the past two+  years she has been her husband’s caregiver as he becomes more disabled with Parkinson’s and some dementia.

Barbara loves to write and has some books planned with stories from her 61 years of marriage.  One book will be about their late son and living with his mental health problems, and another about their son-in-law and his life of survival since early childhood.

She loves dogs and has had a dog in her family since young childhood.  Until about 6 months ago, they only had one dog at a time.  Now, however, they have two — a 14 1/2 year old yellow Lab mix and a 6 1/2 year old Jack Russell terrier.  She has found life to be a little more hectic with two dogs than it was with one, but they love them both dearly.

Visit Barbar’s websites

dogsandtheirowners.com discoveryhealthhappiness.com

00:00 Introductions, how to comment, etc.

03:33 David adds a bit of bio including nearly 3 years with Ageist magazine and explains his switch in focus to older “subjects” in front of his camera lens.

04:50 He kept getting older, but his subjects didn’t and that led to founding Ageist.

06:10 The media world hasn’t “caught up” with the new reality of this emerging demographic.  A brief history of changing stages on ageing and how that affects value systems and behavior.

8:00 The traditional system in italy, the importance of mindset.  The lack of self reflection until you reach a “certain age”.

11:00 The uniqueness that grows as we age, about the the mid-fifties or so.  New decisions become possible.

The example of Cynthia Adler.

16:00 Heidi’s experience, more examples

18:00 “The pharmaceutical industry has been very good to me…but…” and Mark’s experience. Lowell Ann’s comment.  David deconstructs “retirement”.

23:00 Reactions to AARP.  For many, retirement is now unthinkable.
26:10 The need for purpose – which could begin at an early age, and the difficulties of that!

29:40 Lowell Ann adds “meaning” to purpose. David brings up “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl.

31:16 Heidi plugs Jordan Peterson’s “Maps of Meaning”.  Mark plugs Ken Wilber. The importance of continuing to learn.  David takes off on curiosity.  Those who AREN’T curious and how do we relate to them?

39:04 Mark’s big “curiosity” 5 years ago.  Trait openness vs. conscientiousness.

42:20 How’s the magazine gowing? Feedback, reception? “Six Things to Do after 50” has over 125,000 views!   He add that he’d include in a do-over: importance of family/friends/community and some sort of spiritual relationship.  He’s been surprised how many older people meditate, religious practices, connection with nature, to something greater than self.

44:53 Heidi: There’s something more than you…and even you are something more than the you [that] you know!

45:16 So many of those Ageist reaches say they no longer feel invisible, especially women.  And David is good at making people LOOK cool!  A funny story about “self-empowerment”… VISUAL EMPOWERMENT COACHING! (Heidi’s term)

50:58 Heidi says he’s an archeologist! And david reveals a photographer’s secret: 80% of a portrait is set by the interpersonal relationship you establish. (which is what he’s done in our current interview!)

54:14 The magic unfolding of our interviews/conversations

56:00 David shows some photos from his website. How to connect: agei.st, also a newsletter

57:57 “Ageist” not as a pejorative  term, but in the sense of being “pro” ageist.

1:00:40 Thank you’s, good bye’s, final words

About Bonnie Greenwell Ph.D.

Bonnie is a psychologist and non-dual spiritual teacher in the lineage of Adyashanti.  She was a co-founder of the Kundalini Research Network and established Shanti River Center in Ashland, Oregon, where she offers transpersonal counseling, non-dual educational programs and webinars, retreats and satsang gatherings. She has done assessments and consulting with over 3000 people who have had spiritual awakenings, and authored “The Kundalini Guide” and “The Awakening Guide”, self-help books for people in an awakening process.

00:00 introductions and mechanics, how to comment, and the first question to Marc, from Heidi:  Are we talking primarily about men or are women included here too?  Marc responds.

04:10 The composition of the men’s group he has recently facilitated,  sponsored by The Institute for Noetic sciences (IONS) and how things developed.

06:13 Comparing the two groups non-carcerated / incarcerated and the amazing comparisons with ageing with incarceration: second class citizenship, old or in prison is bad, decreasing visiting for older prisoners as for those warehoused in nursing homes, etc.

09:28 Ageing prisoners (over 50) are the fastest growing segment of the incarcerated population (a prisoner baby-boom!) and why it has happened,  The 1990’s war on crime and drugs.

12:05 Comments from audience regarding differences between the two men’s groups.  Marc found more similarities and was surprised that the incarcerated could speak heartfully!

13:01 Mark describes The Wisdom Factory’s efforts to “combat” the invisibility of Heidi’s and his own “Old Age”.  Is this true with Marc also?  He thanks IONS for enabling him and his recent letter from his daughter.

15:40 Heidi asks what particular perspectives do the prisoners have regarding ageing.  How they affected Marc’s approaches and how he found out how little was offered to older prisoners.  A remark from a prisoner in the final session of the program.
21:55 Heidi asks about the age mixture in prison.  Does it matter?  Marc speaks to prison community/culture.

23:57 Are these older inmates still dangerous to society? Dramatic drop in recidivism among the older ones and the increased cost of their incarceration.

26:18 A question from a watcher: What did these men ask for? Marc points out the elephant in the room: ageing and dying and how grateful they were for the space to talk about this. A comment from a prisoner, “This is a sharing group, not a talking group.”

29:38 What are their fears? Very similar to the unincarcerated men’s groups.

30:40 Did the group members get close or intimate with one another as the group live went on?  Marc reads a touching statement written by a group member.  Further eloquent “quotes” .

36:25 The group’s success reflects Marc’s competent facilitation An inmate’s testimony re: trust.  Sacred space.

38:48 Another question from the audience: Will Marc continue to promote such facilitation? Marc and IONS are generating data and writing grants!

41:07 Convincing prison administrators.  Obstacles!  Marc’s raises some precautions.  

45:15 Has this been a transformative experience for you as well as some of the inmates? Marc responds on two levels and speaks to conscious ageing.  Finding purpose in prison.

50:23 Access to libraries and other sources of help? No internet! Difficulties adjusting to current reality once out of prison. The story of a 71 year old facing release in 4 months.

53:10 Heidi’s final question about what we older people on the outside can do to help those still in.  Marc’s underscores responding to invisibility.  Opportunities to help via IONS and other groups.

56:07 How to reach Marc; marcblesoff1@comcast.net

57:00 final comments, thank you’s and how to comment on this conversation.  A final passionate protest from Marc about Ageism! The Wisdom Factory’s schedule for the rest of the year.

About Marc Blesoff

Marc facilitates Conscious Aging Workshops (IONS) and Wise Aging Workshops (IJS) in the Chicago area. He recently concluded an 8 session Conscious Aging Workshop program for the aging prison population at a Federal prison. Marc was formerly a criminal defense attorney in Cook County, Illinois for 30 years, 24 of which he worked as an Assistant Public Defender. Marc is grateful for the possibility to change that awareness offers, and he appreciates the opportunity to get closer to being the person he would like to be that aging consciously offers.

Conscious Ageing starting series streamed from Nov.2016 to April 2017

“YO, IS THIS AGEIST?” 

A conversation with Ashton Applewhite

Here you find the markers for the most important moments of the conversation. You can move the video the place of your choice manually if you don’t want to watch the whole conversation.

00:02 introductions

04:27 What does “Yo, is this ageist?” mean?

05:46 What’s the history of the term? Robert Butler, 1968

06:38 When and how did you (Ashton) get interested in this topic?

09:18 Is fear of Ageing rooted in Fear of Dieing?  NO!

10:58 Our hanging reluctance to talk about i.e. the Slow Death Movement

12:25 “Autonomy requires Collaborators.” No lone cowboys!

14:05 “I force myself to ask for help…” and the role of shame

AND giving

14:58 Interjecting a definition of Ageism and consumerism

16:55 A counter narrative is emerging

17:52 Becoming a burden vs. wanting to stay alive

20:56 Turning 30! Declines? Physical, cognitive.

22:46 Respecting wishes!  Ulterior motives

24:30 Ageing is a natural process, not a pathology!

25:05 Myths that are used to propel Ageism. What is and isn’t ageism?

27:20 The accumulation of social capital!

29:40 The purpose of all isms is…

31:20 Judgement around older women especially and the first discrimination that white men meet

35:00 How we (especially women) hold on to power

36:38 How do we change all this?

38:56 “Old men’s ” behavior?

41:28 Conflicting interests re: older people’s wishes

43:40 What can people both collectively and individually

46:50 Politics!  No one mentioned age! But still optimistic
51:10  Bubbly to bring the broadcast to an end. Personal comments.

53:01 Biggest obstacle to having a goal: Structural Ageism!

56:20 Good bye’s and thanks!

Author and activist Ashton Applewhite is the author of  This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against AgeismAshton has been recognized by the New York Times, National Public Radio, and the American Society on Aging as an expert on ageism. She blogs at This Chair Rocks, has written for Harper’s, Playboy, and the New York Times, and is the voice of Yo, Is This Ageist? Ashton speaks widely, at venues that have ranged from universities and community centers to the United Nations. She has been named as a Fellow by the Knight Foundation, the New York Times, Yale Law School, and the Royal Society for the Arts. In 2016, Ashton joined Next Avenue’s annual list of 50 Influencers in Aging as their Influencer of the Year.  Her work is a call to wake up to the ageism in and around us, embrace a more nuanced and accurate view of growing older, and push back against the forces that frame it as decline. Ashton is a leading spokesperson for a movement to mobilize against discrimination on the basis of age. 

View Ashtons keynote speech at http://seniorplanet.org/watch-take-a-stand-against-ageism/. Here contribution begins at 28:18

Here you find the markers for the most important moments of the conversation. You can move the video the place of your choice manually if you don’t want to watch the whole conversation.

00:00 Introductions

03:30 What has science to do with possibility and how does that relate to ageing in this unpredictable century?  Two stories and life changing incidents

08:30 What those experiences taught me about the limitations of modern science and medicine, an upside down view of what energy and consciousness are

10:25 Information and consciousness are not a results but a driver! What that means…

11:50 Princeton Anomalies Research studies show how our mental activities can affect material results (1 trillion to 1!)
13:20 How that relates to Ageing?  We don’t know how MUCH we can consciously affect it

16:34 Big changes will come when we COLLECTIVELY put our attention into the active creation of new realities.  What else could we do?
20:00 Resistance to the possibilities of change.  What keeps us from being fully alive here and now?  Red pill or blue pill?  Both Mark and Heidi respond for themselves. Jon explores the possi

24:35 It more affects how you might live with an increasing HEALTH span!

25:30 Multiple lifetimes? Possibility is about what you can do, not what you must do.
28:20 What about people’s refusal to change, because of age, of fear?

30:25  Woody Allen’s joke about dying…and what that means.  Choices!

32:00 How far can we go in “thinking” our way out of Ageing?  How can we maintain health and perhaps access what we may need to maintain it?

34:40 How to combine “mainstream” science and medicine with this “esoteric” stream?  It’s not a “head” or “mind” matter.  What Jon does.

38:12 Getting in touch with the body…and with pain

43:40 A gift of ageing!  Putting the universe back inside of us

46:20 A dog story and capacities we all have.  Time is a gift of Ageing.

50:40  What about this “Field” thing?  Humility and unlimited possibilities!

54:02 A diabolic question: Science and Hubris?

57:05 And what about Brexit and Trump and how that changes the world?

58:55 Last words, thank you’s and good bye’s

A generalist in an age of over-specialization, Jon is a thought-leader, systems thinker and visionary with a passion for propelling the change in mindset and Values that will support us all through the major transition that faces humanity. This passion translates into writing, blogging and speaking on topics such as our relationships with money, conscious capitalism, and the science of consciousness. He has published  “Future Money: Evolving our Relationship with Finance” and “Conscious!: The Science of Possibility” is due for publication in May 2013.  

Jon is deeply interested in applying theories of Values-based change as an organisational mentor, coach and workshop leader. He is also a trainer of coaches in the SQ21 Spiritual Intelligence system. Jon is among the world’s leading trainers and practitioners in Spiral Dynamics integral and a founding director of the UK Centre for Human Emergence and The Integral Village.

Jon’s career began in the early days of information systems when his passion for change and his systemic gifts found fulfilment as an applications architect, bringing qualitative improvement to people’s working environments. This conventional career path lasted over three decades with spells as Information Systems Director for a market-leading multinational company, and as a consultant project / change manager in various industries and major companies. In parallel he developed extensive knowledge of alternative health and personal development and an intuitively-informed deep understanding of how human body-minds work. He was a trainer for The Silva method, learned several forms of hands-on healing, trained in holographic and NLP techniques and now actively uses homeopathy, EFT and access consciousness.  

He is currently developing further workshops and experiential trainings on the conscious evolutionary

Integral Life Practices in Any Age? 

A Conversation with Monika Frühwirth

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Timestamps

00:00 How to watch and listen…and introductions

05:10 Presenting Monika and how she became interested in Integral Theory (and what is that?) The early days…founding salons…loneliness…ongoing development

08:24 what does integrally competent mean? A brief description of quadrants…and Heidi adds some details

14:11 An Integral Life Practice for body, mind and spirit, being in the Now, especially as you age

16:05 What do you rely on? Mark’s response and Monika’s experience

19:30 Balancing distance and closeness, books! And feelings among (male) intellectuals..and eros, love

22:54 More about Eros, compassion, empathy…and feelings!  Even intuition!

27:13  How practice has changed for Monika over the years: shadow work and how we influence people without noticing it.  How Monika teases demons out

30:59  Witches and Feminism. Political correctness and how hard it is to become a man

35:18 “Sex in the Three Bodies” by Wilber

36:26 Sex as we get older, “Not a must but a can.” Tantra is not just about sex!

38:11 So tell us more about tantra!  It makes you dangerous, and alive!

40:04 How older people are “supposed” to be, becoming invisible at about age 80. So how can we be “seen” as we get older?  Breathing is key! Singing helps!

45:20 “How do you age, Monika?” I don’t!  (Humor helps.)  And Heidi asks what we two are doing and some shameless, yet appropriate, self promotion follows.

48:14 Monika: I have the privilege of finally being a private person…so you can hardly find me.  “My goal is my Self.

Monika is speaking out of the experience of 7 decades of an intense life which was dedicated to the evolution of consciousness in herself and others.

 

Monika is a true leader. Thanks to her constant efforts the philosophy of Ken Wilber was introduced and spread in Germany. Her way of adopting leadership was – and is –  translating innumerable amounts of  texts, publishing articles, editing print media and creating the German Integral Association together with some like minded people.

About Monika Frühwirth

Monika was one of the first women in the German-speaking Integral scene –  which at first was very “head biased” – the enthusiasm about a brilliant theory. She introduced into the Integral Community the “Feminine Integral Consciousness Field”, a self-organized group of women who tried to translate the theory into their everyday life practice. My friendship with her began with being part of this group of women and their attempt to find a FEMININE WAY of bringing the Integral WORLDVIEW out into the WORLD.

Click on the links below to find the book “Integral Life Practice” and the Starter Kit on Amazon

Integral Life Practice by Ken Wilber and Terry Patten

INTEGRAL LIFE PRACTICE book on AMAZON

Starter Kit to begin with your Integral Life Practice

Integral Life Practice STARTER KIT on AMAZON

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00:00 Introductions and suggestions for listening/watching

04:50 What has it all been leading to?  Hans looks to his (working) roots

06:35 “Stumbling” into a purpose and an “a-ha” moment in 2009

08:00 What is X-ray chrystallography? “Nothing exists except atoms and empty space.  All else is opinion.”  – Democritus

09:35 Hans’s interest in Ageing: measuring ageing and proactive prevention

11:50 Heidi has 2 questions: A machine that measures ageing?  And how do we bring this information out to the public? Rene Dubois’s “Epidemic of Care”

19:50 Case in point: Hans’s experience with smoking

21:25 How we pay for care: a disease management engine, treating the 80%

26:00 How we all feel exempt from serious health consequences

27:00 Who can we point the finger at? Hans responds. The empathy and the patience to wait for the pain of staying to exceed the pain of changing.

29:35 American doctors are the only ones who carry liability insurance?

32:20 Differences between “standards of care” and functional medicine.

34:00 Importance of Nature (and women!) as part of functional medicine

37:50 “Salutogenics” in architecture
39:00 Limitations of traditional education, how to correct for our “old age”?

41:50 Our personal interest in our ambience will affect our own “old age” and “The Island where People Forget to Die”

44:00 Special conditions for men as they age

45:30 “The Anatomy of Illness” by Norman Cousins: the importance of laughter and connection

46:55 New (ad)ventures in maturity: self employment with partners by retaining my identity as “Reset Aging with Science”

53:27 How to contact Hans…and us!

57:00 Final words and good-byes.

Hans Parge, a native of Cologne, Germany. His family  migrated to Ireland where he attended Trinity College where he earned a BA in physical chemistry and a PhD in x-ray crystallography. The he moved to Berlin and he is now in San Diego for more than 30years.

There he became an expert researcher into the atomic structures of proteins. In the 1990’s he joined a startup firm which applied his knowledge to the drug discovery process, continuing his involvement in the pharmaceuticals field until retiring in 2009.

In the years since, while reaching into his 60’s, he’s formed a life/health consulting business called Reset Aging With Science and he works on the goal of dying young as late in life as possible.

Hans has written many many technical papers and publications which you can find on his website

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Timestamps

Timestamps:

00:00 mechanics and introductions

05:20 First question.  Why did you suggest, Durwin, that your dad join you for the conversation?

08:00 What is this “secret promise of ageing”? “I can become conscious of my own spirit

11.10 (At your age) why do you say you have more time?

14:41 Acknowledging viewers and Durwin’s expansion on Christopher’s remarks.

17:25 How did you accomplish your progress down this path, Christopher?  He describes his start in a spiritual community and learned how to change anxiety into joy.

21:03 “When I was no longer afraid of death, I was no longer afraid of (colon) cancer.”

23:15 “It has given me more time to get to know cou, Durwin.”

24:40 More audience comments…and further “reconsiderations” of Christopher’s relationship with his father.

28:44 Mark reports also a “revised “ memory of his father.  Durwin speaks of “life review”.

30:50 Comments by audience, Christopher comments on his fragile memory, and more comments on life review and tools to use.

34:10 Durwin comments on this special moment in his relationship with father…and mother!  The story of her sudden death and possible near death communication with her.

40:42 How long can people who are “passing” live in “both worlds”?

44:30 More audience comments and Mark asks Durwin what is new is his relationship with his dad recently especially in his ability to be “present” and be “still”.

48:40 Heidi asks what advice does Christopher have for younger “ ageing” people in their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s. He replies “Be still and know that I (pointing to himself and we) am God.” Feel the stillness within, be present, be willing to change so new pathways can open.

53:23 Comments from audience, final remarks, take aways, acknowledgements, thank yous and good byes: How can business and noise lead to stillness.  Durwin’s reports of recent discoveries, mindfulness, Ken Wilber’s work, importance of practices, neuroplasticity, responsibility. Christopher adds the importance of having a favorite spot in nature for stillness.


48:14 Monika: I have the privilege of finally being a private person…so you can hardly find me.  “My goal is my Self.

 Please visit their personal page (click here) to find information and links to their books and recommended resources.

 After the show “The secret promise of Aging” 

Chat with Durwin Foster

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0:00 Waiting for community members to enter the video room

1:15 Appreciation of Chriwstopher Foster and his appearance online by Heidi

3:20 Nature and cats: www.my-cat.org : Stories around cats and looking for similarities between humans and animals, especially cats

4:30 recognizing comments and talking about the new plugin

5:00 Sunny the cat takes over the desk

5:45 back to the comment plugin

6:30 talks about the previous show and Christopher Foster. Abilities in older age.

8:25 Heidi talks about her ex-partner and his trying to avoid to be present and his path after his stroke towards his death, About the hospital and the way to become still after the initial panic

11:45 Christopher is an example of “dying before dying” – being familiar with the territory

13,30 Still waiting for Durwin

15:50 Durwin Foster arrives

17:10 Volonteer at the paliative care society to introduce them to the integral model to include more in their care.

19:52 The denial of death

20:40 Heidi gets back to the story of her dying ex-partner in the hospital

32:00 assisted dying – liberalisation in Canada

24:00 What happens while dying when you take drugs or poison?

24:41 Course around dying – more info on the list at https://thewisdomfactory.net/christopher-and-durwin-foster/

25:15 Process of dying like sleep

26:30 we have maps and new technologies may arise to foster awareness during sleep (lucid dreaming)

27:15 4 quadrants/ 8 zones  it is hard to go further in the society you are in

28:10 Internet makes it easier to find each other – people with integral mindset

29:10 Integral community in Vancover? – Salon and men’s group

30:05 The integral can become an orange structure of meaning – people can get stuck in the theory – money, sex, power comes up everywhere

31:20 Men’s work, 18 months long group until they hit the shadow……..

33:10 Mixed gender groups?

34:55 Feminine Power enabled us (Heidi and Mark) to stay together

36:30 Family comes in

Please go over to the show page (click here) where you find more info and the publications and resources Durwin is talking about.

Tantra for any Age

with Michaela Boehm

00:00 Introductions and housekeeping

03:10 Michaela “corrects” our intro of her  and gives her website: michaelaboehm.com

04:04 Mark asks: So what is Tantra…and she explains it’s not all about sex, which is just a small part of it.  It’s an entry into life that doesn’t cut off anything, using your whole body, without cutting of your spiritual endeavors

It’s a yogic practice so much of those practices are included.

07:13 To listeners, how to comment at integralageing.com

08:00 Back to Michaela and what she means by play, and the difficulties of using masculine and feminine today.  The “classical” ideas.

!5:50 Contrast between good relationships and good “sex”: relationships can be “smooth” but good sex requires some friction! Sameness and having a lot in common is good for relationships.  But sexual attraction requires differences.

18:15 More about masculine and feminine, both of which we all have all the time.

21:20 Applying Tantric info to ageing and to being alone. How to nonetheless experience the juiciness of life.

26:24 Coming out of the context of Tantra, i.e: embodiment, mindfulness

30:44 Men and women’s lives are becoming more alike and the consequences, Mark provides “too much information” but to a point.

34:17 Pluses of getting older, limitations of immature experiences

37:42 Animals interrupt but there are lessons in it.

42:49 But back to sex, even if you’re alone.

45:45 The unhelpful role of excess tension and unhelpful beliefs

47:12 Mark wonders how Michaela’s family allowed her to begin Tantric practice at age 16. She goes back to her beginnings, “What patriarchy?”

She expresses her debt to her parents, for their love and allowance.

54:56 Can you describe your courses and other offerings? She does!

60:21  Final words, thank you’s, good bye’s, invitations to Masterminding Integral Ageing on Facebook

 

Born and raised in Austria,Michaela Boehm is a lineage holder of Kashmir Shaivism and she began a classical Tantric education at the age of 16.  She worked and co-taught with David Deida for some 13 years.

She teaches and counsels internationally as an expert in intimacy and sexuality.  Michaela combines her background in psychology and extensive clinical experience with her in-depth training in the yogic arts into a unique offering of experiential learning. She is passionate about teaching skills that enhance deep intimacy, lasting attraction and give each participant the tools for full embodiment and capacity. Michaela also traveled and co-taught with David Deida for 13 years. Michaela teaches women’s workshops, intimacy intensives for men and women as well as offers mentorships and relationship counseling. She lives and teaches on a small organic farm in Ojai, California where her land and animals inspire her clients to reconnect intimately with themselves and others.

Find Michaela at http://www.michaelaboehm.com/

The Later Years of Life: Shared Purpose in Love Relationships

with Martin Ucik

00:00 Housekeeping and introductions
05:45 Martin’s new book, from his integral roots and the importance of levels, the one way street

09:00 Revealing one’s authentic self and the possibility of seeming arrogant

11:30 Mark relates to his experience with differing levels and meeting Heidi (now with 5 years together), shared purpose

13:50 “Looking at each other, but also out into the world together.  Andrew Cohen’s and Eckart Tolle’s influence.  

16:38 Couples have joint purposes at every level: 1. biological, 2. quality of life seeking or hedonistic (1 and 2 are involuntary)

20:19 Next, level 3 (eudemonic) serving a higher purpose

22:30 Next, expression of creativity: level 4, genetically based on 4 genes, one for each quadrant, but with varied expression, epigenetics, soul or transcendental purpose

26:20 Heidi brings in a viewer’s question: Can people at different level create a viable relationship together? Martin postpones a response and continues with development of the “supra-sexual” self which is as sexy as sex itself!

28:20 A new attractor which fits well with older age when sex itself is not so demanding.
30:15 Quality of life when single vs, as a couple and another viewer’s question leads the discussion to love as expressed by the 6 chakras: the 5th when male language is predominant and the 6th when female wisdom is accepted or rejected (not totally hard wired by sex!)

36:30 Martin is advocating a new form of love where people become equal and opposite co-creators at all their levels, including the 7th transcendental level.  The primary love becomes what is created between the two of the couple. No more reciprocity, tit for tat, but a leaning into a common co-creation, represented by the 7th chakra.

38:20 We explain as we’ve understood it, with comments and corrections by Martin.  And how does one find such a partner?  Not necessarily in close physical proximity!  First show up and then naturally partners will find each other. The couple is the next procreative level of development, beyond individual development.

43:10 It still requires similar value systems/levels to work successfully.

47:15 How growth by challenges(men) and grace and acknowledgement (women) can work…and not work!
50:25 Answering questions, being truthful from the start.

54:19 Onto ageing questions, differences in the relationship of society to the individual vs. to a couple, some unfair gender differences “built in”, opportunities to “clean up” are more possible in later years and as a couple.

59:05 Co-creation matters more in older years.  Why?  There’s actually a moral reason that is an attractor, not a push.  Beyond “autonomy”

01:01:20 “Tales out of school”: Perfectionism. The master/slave relationship but the ideal goal is not to be alone and perfectly autonomous. No models about how to do this in later life.

01:04:20 Martin asks for feedback as his book nears completion: martin@integalrelationship.com   Skype name: martinucik
01:05:20 Some final advice from Heidi!

01:08:00 Thanks you’s and good byes

 

 

Martin Ucik was born in West-Germany in 1957, grew up in a happy family, studied Electrical Engineering, and founded a successful international music-soft and hardware publishing company in 1982. He came to the US in 1995 with his wife and children to serve as President of HOHNER MIDIA. Eckhart Tolle trained him as a spiritual group facilitator in 2003. Heartfelt conversations in his Power of Now group and the end of his 14 year marriage led him to a deeper interest in male-female relationship dynamics.  He founded singles2couples.org, an Association for Healthy Relationships.

In 2006 he became an avid student of Ken Wilber’s Integral philosophy.

Not finding any books that took an integral approach to dating and the co-creation of healthy love relationships, he began to write the widely acclaimed “Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men“, which was published in July 2010.

He lives in Sherman Oaks, and Santa Rosa, California, as well as in Germany, and works as President and CEO for Sommer cable America and as strategic business consultant  for the Hollywood, CA based Pro Audio distribution firm plus24.net.

“Hopefully people will get a sense of just how complete this book is. Honestly, I haven’t seen anything quite like it—it’s very impressive.” Ken Wilber

We are all ageist – what to do about it? with Miriam Van Groen

00:00 Introductions and mechanics

04:38 When do we become aware of ageing and ageism.  Where to start?

06:15 Personal memories, of her grandmother, “sharing” ages, “young” integralists at 40

09:50 Do young people today reach some “wisdom” earlier than we did?
11:24 Were those “compliments” ageist? Annoying!

12:15 Ageing awareness comes early. (about 27?)

13:00 Comparing our progress with others declines.

14:35 “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, age doesn’t matter.” Twain

15.00 The long term ageing study by Harvard

17:38 Changing feelings with age about people of other ages!

19:13 How did you, Miriam, find out about your Ageism? Knowing yourself.

21:45 Circling, what is it?

24:50 Circling considerations re: ageing, what we grow up with, resistance to change

29:40  Checking makes the difference between projection and imagination!

30:30 Questions from viewers, then she asks about us in the context of Circling.

32:18 Mark and Heidi confess painful personal experiences of Ageism.

36:00 “The Happiness Project” which included centenarians to talk to.

38:00 importance of purpose, of something meaningful to do. What to do?

40:00 The need to self-author after earlier life roles are completed.  How to age!
42:16 Miriam poses to us a “circling” question.  Finish this question to Miriam, “As a 35 year old, I imagine you are…”  And we reply…

45:00 Heidi asks if in Circling one shares the impact of response. Increasing connection

47:55 With whom does Circling best work? Those who have done personal work, SDi

49:55 Importance of being non-judgemental in Circling, if not generally.

51:28 Mark asks about the burn-out mentioned in the introduction. Miriam explains…

54:33 The recovering Perfectionist and what she learned

57:28 Burnout has no age limits, neither higher nor lower.

58:48 Comments from watchers, final words, thank you’s, invitations to the after-show chat, good-byes, how to reach Miriam.

Miriam van Groen was a university teacher for 7 years after studying International Development. As a teacher she included as much Integral Theory as she could in her lectures and workshops. After burning out, she now gives Circling workshops (a fast-growing we-practice or ‘relational meditation’) and 1-on-1 sessions that help people discover and inhabit more of themselves with gentleness, while deepening their connections to others and the world. She loves exploring the body as a source of wisdom and catalyst for change.

After show chat: We are all ageist with Miriam Van Groen

1:00 About the after show chats

1:47 about the show from Mark’s perspective

3:00 Hosting as a co-creation (Heidi) – the conception of our shows

4.20 example of the choir – work and info doesn’t need to be boring

5:25 About our dog Lucky

6:10 Miriam – post event hang over. Inner dialog and making fun of all that.

7:15 Soap opera: talking about our experience as an inspiration for others

7:50 With 75 you are supposed to have figured all out!

25:50 Respect for the roles – preferences for roles. Enneagram. Western societies have preference for 3

9:10 perfectionism and talking about ennegram types, 4 and 2 – also as a characteristic of women’s sacrifice.

11:02 Miriam was serious until 27 – as an enneatype 1 – surrendering instead of control

13:35 Miriam talks about Mark Walsh Time, commitment community = 3 things you need for change

14:25 Community creating via Internet

15:00 Miriam: curiosity and wanting to learn

15:40 Heidi’s epiphany with 27

18:15 Mark as a catalysator for change for Heidi

19:30 Miriam: after the burnout she couldn’t go back to the same job. Changes needed to happen.Projects and view into the future.

23:30 About workshops, conferences and gatherings in Netherlands, Hungary and Vienna

An invitation to join us in the live conversations and practice with us to be in public.

Miriam van Groen was a university teacher for 7 years after studying International Development. As a teacher she included as much Integral Theory as she could in her lectures and workshops. After burning out, she now gives Circling workshops (a fast-growing we-practice or ‘relational meditation’) and 1-on-1 sessions that help people discover and inhabit more of themselves with gentleness, while deepening their connections to others and the world. She loves exploring the body as a source of wisdom and catalyst for change.

Active Wisdom: What Grandparents Can Give Us and Our Children with Ann Roberts

00:00 Introductions and mechanics

05:55 Ann tells how her transition from “adult” to whatever came after that occurred

07:45 She plugs Mary Catherine Bateson’s “Composing a Further Life” as an important inspiration which added the stage of Active Wisdom” after the previous “adult” stage.

10:15 Beyond “purpose” to a new flavor of making the most of this “new” normal stage.

13:30 Anne describes her project for her dissertation, how grandparents relate to both their own children and to the grandchildren.

16:28 Acknowledgement of viewers who are commenting, then back to Ann.

19:05 “The Family Practices”

22:08 Mark speaks of his grandparents and family dynamics. Ann with warmer reports!

25:05 How to make comments and Ann adds comments re: what the grandparents said AFTER the study, which precluded interaction with any grandchildren directly. Memories
27:10 Ann’s own experience as a grandparent (it lightens her up!)

30:10 Different mindsets of the grandparents, Integral theory comes in.

34:45 Subtle competition between sets of grandparents.  No name for the relationships between those two sets! Grandparents can play again!

38:15 What about grandparents “who know better”?

41:10 Heidi asks Ann what are her plans as a result of this study? Coaching and Circles of “Active wisdom”…and also career guidance for young people.

44:15: A question from a viewer: How can I create a relationship with my teenage grandchildren who I’ve not been close to because of family dynamics?

46:45 Understanding the teenage brain!

48:10 How her research and personal experience of grandparenting has affected her relationship with her husband.
51:00 The changing role of women, learning to lead. Co-creative energies!

53:10 invitation to the after show chat, how to contact Ann (activewisdomhub.com) and husband David.  Ann’s new “organic” life. “Come and play!”  Thank you’s and good-bye’s

Ann says about herself:

I love being a Grandmother. After ten years of being an “empty nester”, the arrival of grandchildren brought joy to my and my husband’s lives; they are a wonderful surprise. Having grandchildren has brought us into even closer relationship with each other and with our adult children, and provided us with opportunities to heal family dynamics.

In 2015 as I headed for retirement, I was very aware of this being the first time since I was 21 that I would not have an employment contract. I was rather unsettled by the prospect and I decided I would go back to University and undertake a Masters to develop a new skill-set as a Social Researcher. During my dissertation research I encountered a wonderful book called Composing a Further Life by Mary Catherine Bateson. I discovered that my unsettledness was not that unusual and was indicative of moving into a stage in my life cycle that she called Active Wisdom. As I was experiencing, a transition through ‘retirement’ can often be tinged with a sense of withdrawal, confusion and loss of identity.  What she challenged me to see was that this could be a wonderful opportunity to access my natural inner drive to share the wisdom I have gained from my rich life experience. To step into a refreshed engagement with life that harnessed a new sense energy and commitment to the wellbeing of others and myself.

My research interest is how Baby Boomers are making the most this stage of “Active Wisdom”. I want to create connections, conversations and programs that develop the wellbeing of my generation in the service the people we love. At this event we will have a conversation about what I gathered both from my personal journey over the last year and from the contribution of the grandparents I interviewed.  It was a great experience to be in conversation with such wise elders who in different ways were committed to making a difference to the people they love.

Visit Ann’s website http://activewisdomhub.com/

After show chat with Ann Roberts

1:07 Active Wisdom – the Baby Boomer generation – the pig in the python

2:26 Heidi talks about the different live strategies of that generation, who often  did not built a traditional career. Heidi’s story

6:20 Talking about music and singing. Ann sings now after challenges

7:05 Cruel optimism – it is not ok to have challenges (Lynne Segal: “Out of Time”) Lauren Berlant

8:10 Share the challenges as well as the opportunities. – Bonding on stories of illness. 8:50 Levels of development

9:55 Cruel optimism – the cruelty of optimism: You don’t have to pretend that everything is perfect. We need a balance and holistic view on Ageing

12:00 Resilience and different rhythm but high potential.

13:00 Heidi: we need to stand up for the recognition that we have different ways of doing, achieving etc. “on our terms”

14:40 Creating Community – in relationship with other generations (Ann). It is about give back. Virtue and Vulnerability of ACTIVE WISDOM. Finding how to reach out to the world without needing to be an expert or in the role of a job

16:19 Reaching out via modern technology and connect globally

18:05 Invitation to the audience

18:50 wise elders and family relationships. The gift of ageing

20:00 Heidi’s life story – today we laugh about it

22:10 Ann’s story about the meeting with the teachings of two native Americans – Consciousness training and ceremonies. The balancing of masculine and feminine. Experience of nature

24:20 Mark’s life in America. The retirement industry in Florida. Too much peace and silence.

26:15 Ken Wilber and the courses. Sidetracked by Jordan Petersons teachings on YouTube

Ann says about herself:

I love being a Grandmother. After ten years of being an “empty nester”, the arrival of grandchildren brought joy to my and my husband’s lives; they are a wonderful surprise. Having grandchildren has brought us into even closer relationship with each other and with our adult children, and provided us with opportunities to heal family dynamics.

In 2015 as I headed for retirement, I was very aware of this being the first time since I was 21 that I would not have an employment contract. I was rather unsettled by the prospect and I decided I would go back to University and undertake a Masters to develop a new skill-set as a Social Researcher. During my dissertation research I encountered a wonderful book called Composing a Further Life by Mary Catherine Bateson. I discovered that my unsettledness was not that unusual and was indicative of moving into a stage in my life cycle that she called Active Wisdom. As I was experiencing, a transition through ‘retirement’ can often be tinged with a sense of withdrawal, confusion and loss of identity.  What she challenged me to see was that this could be a wonderful opportunity to access my natural inner drive to share the wisdom I have gained from my rich life experience. To step into a refreshed engagement with life that harnessed a new sense energy and commitment to the wellbeing of others and myself.

My research interest is how Baby Boomers are making the most this stage of “Active Wisdom”. I want to create connections, conversations and programs that develop the wellbeing of my generation in the service the people we love. At this event we will have a conversation about what I gathered both from my personal journey over the last year and from the contribution of the grandparents I interviewed.  It was a great experience to be in conversation with such wise elders who in different ways were committed to making a difference to the people they love.

Visit Ann’s website http://activewisdomhub.com/

Age is a state of mind with Connie Corley

00:00 introductions and mechanics

04:20 Echo! And onward  reference to fielding.edu for Connie’s program and on radio “Experience Talks!on KPFP in LA or experience talks.org

06:16 Connie “reports” on a conference from a week before where the AARP and the motion picture industry joined forces to help older people with loneliness

08:40  Do we just tell ourselves we’re OK alone, or not.  Mark and Heidi tell short tales from their past.

10:10 Connie’s adaptation of the “4 Aces” model

12:12 Activism!

14:08 “Age is a state of mind.”  the visit to the cardio ward

16:10 The Senior Moment phrase, replace with Senior Momentum!

17:14 Internalized stereotypes of ageing and attitude

19:10 Acknowledging watchers

21:40 Feelings about “anti-ageing” concepts and vocabulary

23:07 Mark exhibits symptoms of age by his absence!  (Full disclosure here!) Then back to looking one’s age, shying away from older people, isolating them

25:30 Connie’s project: Cruzando Puentes (Crossing Bridges) very interesting interaction between older and younger people.

27:30 A summer conference of IAGG-2017 (international Association of Gerontology and Geriatrics in San Francisco July 24-26.  Connie is promoting and participating in a drumming experiment.  Heidi goes on to extol the virtues of music and singing. There’s more to us than what we simply “think”.

32:15 Whatever you thinking about now will affect how you feel next! Connie promotes silence and meditation. Older adults is the “preferred “ term in gerontology. Imagined effects of various terms. “The richness of paradox”

40:35 More terms: being a “kid” – second adolescence, etc.  It goes on!

41:45 More watcher input on terms; “seniors” is ever less popular

45:10 Changing demographics and what they portend.  What shall we do?

46:50 Connie’s vision for older people, some self-imposed limitations

49:45 Final thoughts, thank you’,s goodbye’s and invitations to the “aftershow” on our Facebook show on our Masterminding Integral Ageing page.

DR. CONNIE CORLEY, MSW, MA, Ph.D., PRODUCER/HOST

Dr. Corley is a Professor at Fielding Graduate University and California State University Los Angeles (and Associate Director of Lifelong Learning, Applied Gerontology Institute). She completed her graduate degrees at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. She holds certification from the Center for Mind-Body Medicine in Washington, DC and is adjunct faculty at Saybrook University. Dr. Corley’s 100+ publications and national/international presentations have spanned the fields of aging and the arts, geriatrics, rehabilitation, spirituality, and substance abuse. She has been a mentor in Geriatric Social Work Initiatives funded by the John A. Hartford Foundation, and also a mentor in the New Ventures in Leadership program of the American Society on Aging (ASA). She is a fellow of the Gerontological Society of America (GSA) and the Association for Gerontology in Higher Education (AGHE), Past President of the Association for Gerontology Education in Social Work (AGE-SW), a recipient of the AGE-SW Leadership Award, and in 2004 was the Inaugural recipient of the West Coast Gerontological Social Work Career Award from the Institute for Geriatric Social Work. Cal State LA named Dr. Corley a Distinguished Woman in 2008. She is in “Who’s Who in America” and “Who’s Who of American Women.” visit her website. http://conniecorleyphd.com.

After show chat with Connie Corley

0:20 Acknowledgement of the audience who commented on the main show and invitation to come on camera

1:00 Heidi shares her experience with the conversations

1:26 Connie comes in and shares her practices, dream processing and allowing the learning and growth

2:25 About multitasking – adaptive advantage when growing older.

3:15 Choosing better what is important

3:51 Connie talks about the conference call she needs to attend virtually in a committee meeting.

5:05 Invitation to come into the room – otherwise Connie would leave

5:25 Projects for a future conversation – about Arts? With John Fitzgerald? Virtual drum circle.

6:30 Some fun between us

7:18 Find the balance – Heidi attempts to summarize what she learnt during the talk

7:37 Mark shares his experience in bio-feedback. How it feels now and before in the show.

8:50 Heidi’s edition about “being quiet” – hint to “Women Matters” last episode about “Sensing and Silence” Using these Feminine Qualities in public discussions and business.

10:42 We need a different state of mind – Meditation

11:03 Mark’s experience with meditation – what is your state of mind?

12:03 Preview and  explanation of TIMESTAMPS

12:48 Heidi invites people to come out of shyness and to learn to show up in public

Contact via email: heidi56@me.com

DR. CONNIE CORLEY, MSW, MA, Ph.D., PRODUCER/HOST

Dr. Corley is a Professor at Fielding Graduate University and California State University Los Angeles (and Associate Director of Lifelong Learning, Applied Gerontology Institute). She completed her graduate degrees at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. She holds certification from the Center for Mind-Body Medicine in Washington, DC and is adjunct faculty at Saybrook University. Dr. Corley’s 100+ publications and national/international presentations have spanned the fields of aging and the arts, geriatrics, rehabilitation, spirituality, and substance abuse. She has been a mentor in Geriatric Social Work Initiatives funded by the John A. Hartford Foundation, and also a mentor in the New Ventures in Leadership program of the American Society on Aging (ASA). She is a fellow of the Gerontological Society of America (GSA) and the Association for Gerontology in Higher Education (AGHE), Past President of the Association for Gerontology Education in Social Work (AGE-SW), a recipient of the AGE-SW Leadership Award, and in 2004 was the Inaugural recipient of the West Coast Gerontological Social Work Career Award from the Institute for Geriatric Social Work. Cal State LA named Dr. Corley a Distinguished Woman in 2008. She is in “Who’s Who in America” and “Who’s Who of American Women.” visit her website. http://conniecorleyphd.com.

00:00 introductions and mechanics…

05:40 Tom’s begins to explain his new theme of new capacities that emerge as we age.

07:56 Example of learning to drive at age 16 and forgetting what we were like at age 8!

and how that continues throughout life.  So what is new in our later decades?

09:20 Examples: Transtemporal cognition:  holding the present for extended periods. and forgetting that we weren’t always able to, that once the time story held us!

12:00 No longer stuck in a word-based reality, the importance that “story” has had.

13:00 Heidi is surprised by a “new” view of the old men just sitting around and chatting, but some of those old men are not in the same kind of mind!  It’s hard to tell.

13:40 The effects of meditation may be a natural effect of ageing! Transnarrative cognition: understanding arises without “figuring it out”. Complex thinking!

17:25 How do we get there? Tom explains how: name it, claim it.

18:30 The difference between the automatic growth of thinking to meditation?  Tom still meditates but not for the old reasons.

21:30 Meditation and the emergence of “Orange” cognition with modernity.

22:50 Watcher comments, Tom’s thoughts on wisdom. What emerges with meditation

26:35 Another trans word: transegoic!  Tom explains: interrupting identity patterns.

29:05 Tom’s grand vision: Older people HAVE the wisdom to alleviate many huge problems.

32:07 Arguments over terminology, what to call we “olders”. Defensiveness, respect.

33:30 Tom’s paper in academia.edu as “Leading Edge Cognitive Capacities” or to Integral Leadership Review.  Tom’s classroom experience: collective intelligence.

36:35 More audience comments and how this wisdom emerges in tribal cultures.

39:20 How could we gather second tier people together for real problem solving, free of ego!  Some cross fertilization among a group of 70 year olds.

42:02 All these trans words! Tom has a group of 9!

43:35 Tom hunts and we talk from personal experience and speculation. Tome brings us back with “quieted amygdala” and loss of fear. Also “attunement” and feeling the nature of things. Tom’s experience on Lake Superior. Mirror neurons, “tuning into spirit”.

48:30 More audience questions.  This process occurs in the same order for everyone.

49:40 Contradiction?  Tom explains how it seems to him.

51:20 Why so many more are experiencing this now. Multiperspectival cognition!

52:40 Final comments from audience, importance of temperament, choosing how we understand things.  Mark remarks on the “indigenous” people of Europe.

55:45 Tom’s final comment: Heart opening surpasses thinking.Goodbyes

Tom Christensen “Tom C.”, is the editor of and one of the authors in two books of Gravesian-Spiral Dynamics case studies.  He provides Gravesian trainings and writes often on this topic, and others.  Tom has braided his life over the past 40 years with constant strands of business, art including painting, sculpture, poetry and piano, regular engagement in sports & gardening, and raising a family.  Tom C. is married, and with Stephanie they have 7 children, and 4 of the most charming grandchildren in the world.  In years past, Tom C. served as an orderly, nursing assistant, and the first hospice counselor at UW-Madison Hospitals.  This phase left him with a wider and more comfortable appreciation for the extremely wide range of end-of-life experiences for people.  This background with dying, combined with an appreciation of the possibility of lifelong learning, has led him to welcome each day of his new, more obvious, aging phase, as another opening for discovery and adventure.  “No one has ever lived THIS life before.  I wonder what’s next?!” See more on his page.

After show chat with Tom Christensen and Monika Fruhwirth (and Irene Standnes)

0:18 Irene Standness joins us

0:42 Introduction to the after show conversation

1:15 TAlking to group experience she had. Similar to what Tom talked about in the show:FEELING the river. Is it only about age?

2:30 Tom: cognitive complexity. The importance to talk about it as normal human experience

3:27 Irene’s experience of how people receive her talking about it

4:16 an example by Tom: awareness of sexual arousement – Appreciate your experience

5:31 About being alone on that level of awareness: our minds cannot relate any more to what the others are interested in. We have got a treasure for the world and need to honor it.

6:36 Monika: opening our hearts? Monika talks about her group. The flying carpet who gets woven while flying. Referring to the map of integral theory and Wilber

8:40 the multi-perspectival mind. “You don’t expect a lawyer to know that”

9:28 Appreciation for our offering the space for conversations. New projects.

10:15 About writing a book.

11:10 We can tell the stories online, on video, instead of writing books!

12:23 How to land in the gross body when you are high up in the subtle body.

13:00 Tom: abdominal breathing.

13:21 Heidi: grounding, connecting with the earth, flowing down of energies.

13:50 Monika: would be good to share the experiences.

Connecting us from many parts of the world. Where are you?

15:30 Canada? – better than the US – bye bye Tom

15:53 Monika – the closing phrase.  Monika tells about her time of “being high”, grounding, grow the roots into the earth

17:06 back to the roots! We might need different tools in different periods of our time.

18:00 throat and heart opening

Portrait of Tom Christensen

About Tom Christensen

Tom Christensen “Tom C.”, is the editor of and one of the authors in two books of Gravesian-Spiral Dynamics case studies.  He provides Gravesian trainings and writes often on this topic, and others.  Tom has braided his life over the past 40 years with constant strands of business, art including painting, sculpture, poetry and piano, regular engagement in sports & gardening, and raising a family.  Tom C. is married, and with Stephanie they have 7 children, and 4 of the most charming grandchildren in the world.  In years past, Tom C. served as an orderly, nursing assistant, and the first hospice counselor at UW-Madison Hospitals.  This phase left him with a wider and more comfortable appreciation for the extremely wide range of end-of-life experiences for people.  This background with dying, combined with an appreciation of the possibility of lifelong learning, has led him to welcome each day of his new, more obvious, aging phase, as another opening for discovery and adventure.  “No one has ever lived THIS life before.  I wonder what’s next?!”

Tom Christensen “Tom C.”, is the editor of and one of the authors in two books of Gravesian-Spiral Dynamics case studies.  He provides Gravesian trainings and writes often on this topic, and others.  Tom has braided his life over the past 40 years with constant strands of business, art including painting, sculpture, poetry and piano, regular engagement in sports & gardening, and raising a family.  Tom C. is married, and with Stephanie they have 7 children, and 4 of the most charming grandchildren in the world.  In years past, Tom C. served as an orderly, nursing assistant, and the first hospice counselor at UW-Madison Hospitals.  This phase left him with a wider and more comfortable appreciation for the extremely wide range of end-of-life experiences for people.  This background with dying, combined with an appreciation of the possibility of lifelong learning, has led him to welcome each day of his new, more obvious, aging phase, as another opening for discovery and adventure.  “No one has ever lived THIS life before.  I wonder what’s next?!” See more on his page.

FInd Monika’s contribution to the CONSCIOUS AGEING series here

Monika is speaking out of the experience of 7 decades of an intense life which was dedicated to the evolution of consciousness in herself and others.

Monika is a true leader. Thanks to her constant efforts the philosophy of Ken Wilber was introduced and spread in Germany. Her way of adopting leadership was – and is –  translating innumerable amounts of  texts, publishing articles, editing print media and creating the German Integral Association together with some like minded people.

Monika was one of the first women in the German-speaking Integral scene –  which at first was very “head biased” – the enthusiasm about a brilliant theory. She introduced into the Integral Community the “Feminine Integral Consciousness Field”, a self-organized group of women who tried to translate the theory into their everyday life practice. My friendship with her began with being part of this group of women and their attempt to find a FEMININE WAY of bringing the Integral WORLDVIEW out into the WORLD.

00:00 Introductions and mechanics…and Lowell Ann corrects me!

06:40 Heidi asks how Lowell Ann has gotten so involved in so much change.

07:40 A bit of her historya series of new beginnings, always working with people, the arctic in Yellowknife and new careers for both her and her husband.

15:50 Acknowledgement of the audience and their questions.

16:65 How she got interested in technology and appearing on screen as a way to reach her public clients.

23:43 Her success online depends on those who come to participate!

24:40 How Integral Theory and Ken Wilber got added to her tool bag and how helpful in became in working with clients.  Also the enneagram!  We have choice!

34:14  A comment from the audience leads to a whole new discussion about expansion, not contraction!, including expansion to include friends of other ages!

39:00 Why do we hold back? Cultural expectations?
40:00 Lowell Ann really wants to talk about her choral work and how enriching that is, not just for her but for the whole community.  It’s a model for both personal and cultural expansion. This is right up Heidi’s alley with her singing history.as well.  Find a choir!

50:14 How they teach newbies who “can’t sing” to discover that they can: “composting!” How that generalizes to speaking and being heard; a metaphor for life.

52:28 Info about starting your own community choir.

54:10 Contrast with “homes for seniors” where Lowell Ann volunteers one day a week and the isolation which counters the healthiness of communities – and a community online!.

57:07 Find a group to share your passion with; don’t do it alone!

58:00 Lowell Ann has found a local group where they discuss Ken Wilber’s work and she knows she needs to learn more, especially about states of consciousness.  Then goodbye’s and thank you’s and invitations to the after-show talk on Facebook.

Lowell Ann Fuglsang (pronounced Fullsang in English) began her career as an Employment Counsellor with Canada Manpower in Moncton NB in 1975. She moved north and worked with the department in various capacities, all focused on helping Arctic northerners find meaningful work.  She trained counsellors and program deliverers until 1997 when she retired to start her own consulting business (Workstyle-Lifestyle Consulting) .

All of her professional life she has been actively and passionately involved in training and personal development, both as a participant and a facilitator/trainer/coach.  Committed to ensuring the personal and professional success of her clients, her lifestyle and philosophy is based on a firm belief in the importance of a balance in mental, emotional, physical and spiritual development.

She has hosted an Embrace Aging video series with a couple of colleagues and currently hosts a weeklyBeing Your Own CEO Success Circle for solopreneurs via Hangout On Air. Participants enjoy each other’s company while sharing techniques and information and providing moral support to each; they even end up doing business together! She has just completed her 122nd session.

She is currently working on an extended program to help people find their Third Age Purpose that will be a full exploration of each of these quadrants.

Visit Lowell Ann’s website here

After show chat with Lowell Ann Fuglsang and Majorie

0:37 Welcoming Majorie and helping her with the entry into the video room

1:50 Begin of the debriefing: Young people often are happy to listen to us

2:30 Majorie is in. Talking about coming together all over the world

3:19 Majorie addresses the topic of singing in a choir

5:25 Heidi offers help with the voice challenge Majory is having

6:25 Mark’s voice and the repair

8:02 Lowell Ann: voice gets tired when you sing too much – not push too hard

8:40 Push the voice – Heidi addresses the main problem about how people use their voices in the wrong way.

9:36 Majorie talk about her past as a music teacher – the talking was heavy on her voice. She has a family who lives in music. Listening

10:50 Heidi suggests http://medici.tv for listening to wonderful classical music for free

12:07 Lowell Ann talks about the advantage of a mixed choir – with men being in their “right brain”

13:55 “Tenors have more fun”

14:34 Majorie’s son is a professional tenor

15:08 Connection of Majorie and Mark in the Spiral Dynamics group on Facebook – very left brain – testosterone oriented

16:20 How men converse in those groups…..  Headspace

17:12 Apply it!

17:37 Don’t write but SPEAK with others

18:06 Majorie asks about the Wisdom Factory and how we met

19:30 met our names first in 2014

19:55 Mark thanks Majorie for showing her face – for a technical glitch Youtube hasn’t recorded her face, unfortunately, but we saw her on camera!

20:02 Heidi talks about the mission of the Wisdom Factory (and of us, Heidi and Mark)

20:40 Find people online – some people cannot imagine to connect online on video, we generally get to know only a few aspects of people, online and in real life.

22:30 The experience when we meet live after knowing each other online

23:20 Heidi invites Majorie to join us in other shows and in the after chat

24:07 Majorie gives us appreciating – Heidi talks about the relationship and the support we give each other

25:30 Project online-course for a different couple relationship

26:50 Heidi thanks for the appreciation

27:25 Lowell Ann talks about the show, her thoughts before and gives appreciation for our way of asking questions

28:32 Majorie feels encouraged to find a new partner.

29:40 Lowell Ann talks about her relationship with her husband which is unusual

30:54 Exploring new ways of being in relationship

31:30 Mark makes his usual jokes, everybody laughing

32:13 WHEN LIFE WAS HAVING US INSTEAD OF WE HAVING LIFE

Lowell Ann Fuglsang (pronounced Fullsang in English) began her career as an Employment Counsellor with Canada Manpower in Moncton NB in 1975. She moved north and worked with the department in various capacities, all focused on helping Arctic northerners find meaningful work.  She trained counsellors and program deliverers until 1997 when she retired to start her own consulting business (Workstyle-Lifestyle Consulting) .

All of her professional life she has been actively and passionately involved in training and personal development, both as a participant and a facilitator/trainer/coach.  Committed to ensuring the personal and professional success of her clients, her lifestyle and philosophy is based on a firm belief in the importance of a balance in mental, emotional, physical and spiritual development.

She has hosted an Embrace Aging video series with a couple of colleagues and currently hosts a weeklyBeing Your Own CEO Success Circle for solopreneurs via Hangout On Air. Participants enjoy each other’s company while sharing techniques and information and providing moral support to each; they even end up doing business together! She has just completed her 122nd session.

She is currently working on an extended program to help people find their Third Age Purpose that will be a full exploration of each of these quadrants.

Visit Lowell Ann’s website here

00:00 Introduction and mechanics

4:00 Kugluktuk, where Myste lives, and the climate!
8:00 About Myste and first questions about how she got in this “death” business, beginning with her mother’s death in 2014 which “popped” her out of her 3-D world.

12:00 It became clear that most people don’t want to talk about death.

12:50. Moving from Women’s Empowerment Coach to a new role re: death and connected with Patty Burgess and soon “The Death Chicks” began on YouTube.

(headphones resolve an echo problem)

16:05 The early progress of their show, what has been the feedback?

Death Positive! All the aspects of death, dying, funerals, preparations, etc.

19:10 What we’re doing now. Patty’s training program, the “Death Doula” program

20:10 Families are more difficult to deal with than the dying person!

21:40 What have you learned from your guests about overcoming fear?  It’s about LIFE and resistance to that!  Often an early childhood experience.  

25:22 Mark remembers his the “non-event” of his grandmother’s death. Heidi’s experience

28:30 New aspects of dying we are just learning and hearing about, example .The Afterlife of Billy Fingers. Openings to deeper conversations and viewpoints.  Stories!

33:50 A chaplain’s experience, how the dying often attempt to care for family members.

34:50  Myste’s e-book about how to help about how to help the dying family member. 37:40 Hospice experiences: how they can help YOU!  Also death doulas and their job.

41:07 The education of doctors! Growing awareness of the need for “death ed.”

43:00 Spiritual orientations, near death experiences and the similarities of them.

47:00 Choosing our beliefs. De-cluttering our minds.

49:50  Working with women and the similarities with death counseling. “Lasagna pans”

51:15 Coming to the end, what are the take-aways or final thoughts. Inuit practices, inner child work, accepting what we’ve excluded. Taboos of the Inuit.  Funeral wailing.

56:50 Invitation to the after-show chat:

“The Beauty in the Darkness” at:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xeeguXDI9Hc

Myste Lyn, certified Master Empowerment Coach, specializes in supporting women to overcome fear and find peace after loss.  As a young traveler and explorer of Eastern philosophies, Myste was drawn to alternatives cultures; her curious nature brought her to study at seven Canadian Universities before she returned to her Northern roots and settled down next to the Arctic Ocean in Kugluktuk Nunavut where she currently resides as an independent mother with her seven year old daughter and dog Shelby.

The inner peace Myste teaches women to connect with was solidified by her intensive yogic studies with Gopalakrishnan in Kerala India.  After the loss of her mother, work with Dr. Jean Houston, founder of the human potential movement, inspired Myste to move forward in exploring death, dying, grief and loss and co-found The Death Chicks  http://youtube.com/thedeathchicksshow

Myste’s work is grounded in quantum theory and she uses guided visualizations, breath-work, and voice vibration to open intuition and gently guide women back to their place of peace.  Once here, anything is possible!

Learn more about Myste and see pictures of her Arctic home here www.bittersweetblessing.com

After show chat with Myste Lyn, Gina and Marjorie

0:28 Myste joins with her daughter, some chat, Myste shows the school-artwork of her daughter

1:50 Do you fear death personally? MArk answers

2:38 Heidi

3:22 Myste leaves (temporarily) for the sake of the daughter

4:15 The hope to be conscious when death comes, the question of pain and drugs

5:04 Heidi’s experience with drugs after surgery: do painkiller take you out of conscious experience?

6:35 Gina enters the room, talking about coming on camera. Mark talks about people who cover up their camera, why?

8:03 Gina talks about her work with people to prepare for the own death with the practical things. Advanced care and Life Planning. Don’t ask others to clean up for you!

10:50 We need to have the open conversation about our fears and our wishes

11:26 A reminder to write our testament

12:00 Gina talks about Canada where she lives: 70% have not done it. Gina describes the difficulty for people who meet the situation after your death.

13:53 Mark realizes that he has no clue how the laws are here in Italy. Gina gives examples of what to do.

15:02 Heidi talks about Germany. And of her experience with death. Kübler Ross as preparation to father’s death, The sacred experience of being present with the dying person

17:30 Welcoming Marjorie -technical difficulties Gina’s comment on technology.

18:45 What is the name for what Gina does? She works with clients for a Life log, all documentation etc.

21:50 A way of (not) taking responsibility – the challenge of realizing to not be immortal. Would you like to live forever? How would it be?

23:55 Embracing each phase of life

24:17 Marjorie made it to be in the broadcast room. What about violent death or suicide? Sometimes death is not a natural part of life, can be very dark. Importance to practice how to deal with darkness.

28:00 what do you refer to as “darkness”? Also survival of the human species. Majory shares the experience of the death of her husband and what she did for him and

for herself, too. The relationship continues even that he is gone.

32:03 Heidi welcomes back Myste. Talking about the continuation of the connection after death.

33:47 Gina is back and on camera, talking to Myste and her e-book. Gives a summary for Mste of her own work. Her experience as a child when people talked about death around the kitchen table

35:28 A tool to get the conversation going: “My gift of grace”

36:40 About posting resources in the comment stream. An explanation of the comment plugin on our website

37:45 The question about a sudden or violent death. How to handle suicide? The story of Marjorie’s friend.

40:30 Gina responds: violations of expectations which hurt deeply. Her belief system was challenged with her mother’s death. The belief system which helps us must not be religious.

42:13 Myste responds: opportunity for growth and deeper soul searching. Myste talks about her show “The Death Chicks” and about a tragic event in her neighbourhood which challenged her. “Suicide – you go to hell” How to be able to cope with it?  – we chose our assignments before we come.://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wwv-qWlYAE

46:20 Gina: Why is this happening? – It gives us a gift regardless of your construct. From feeling hurt yourself to helping others.

48:00 Mark connects to what Marjorie said about public incidents of horror. Leads to numbness? Heidi talks about the experience in the war cemetery.

50:08 Marjorie talks about Andrew Harvey, a mystic who talks about needing to go into the deep dark. Guided meditation to arrive at surrender and become one with everything. “There is love and light within the darkness”

53:45 About the motivation and passion which leads to our work (Heidi). Learning and giving it away. Heidi’s journey. Why we live certain situations: What I have learnt

57:00 The project of an online course for relationships and the quote by Jordan Peterson

57:50 Myste: “Why are you so happy?” – Myste acknowledges Marjories explanation of the darkness. “BitterSweet Blessing”. As a culture we fail to see the richness in the dark

1:00:00 The inner light, eternal flame, illuminates the beauty in the darkness.

1:00:50 Signing off – with the beauty of the spring flowers

Myste Lyn, certified Master Empowerment Coach, specializes in supporting women to overcome fear and find peace after loss.  As a young traveler and explorer of Eastern philosophies, Myste was drawn to alternatives cultures; her curious nature brought her to study at seven Canadian Universities before she returned to her Northern roots and settled down next to the Arctic Ocean in Kugluktuk Nunavut where she currently resides as an independent mother with her seven year old daughter and dog Shelby.

The inner peace Myste teaches women to connect with was solidified by her intensive yogic studies with Gopalakrishnan in Kerala India.  After the loss of her mother, work with Dr. Jean Houston, founder of the human potential movement, inspired Myste to move forward in exploring death, dying, grief and loss and co-found The Death Chicks  http://youtube.com/thedeathchicksshow

Myste’s work is grounded in quantum theory and she uses guided visualizations, breath-work, and voice vibration to open intuition and gently guide women back to their place of peace.  Once here, anything is possible!

Learn more about Myste and see pictures of her Arctic home here www.bittersweetblessing.com

00:00 Introductions and mechanics

04:20 Lynn clarifies and describes her practice:  Helping women find their deliciousness!

05:50 Men are delicious too!  Men want intimacy (and women want equality!)  Both despite their protestations, especially as they age.

07:30 Changing needs as we age; no need for perfection, “There’s still a pussy underneath the hair.” Choice driven, not hormone driven.

10:17 Defining intimacy: the willingness to show yourself, no matter how scary or risky

12:00 The inner child comes out!  Knee jerk reactions.

14:18 Is this part of ageing, Heidi asks.  Yes!  Discernment!  Lynn’s grandmother.

16:20 No more loss, despite the usual presumptions

17:15 You can be super intimate even if none of your parts work.

18:30 “Have you ever been taken by a man?”  Things change but nothing’s wrong.

20:45 Becoming invisible or not wanting to be seen “that way.”

22:00 Many women confuse their attractiveness with themselves, until that attractiveness is gone!

The end of power trips as insecurity fades.

24:50 Working with millennials; incredible “kids” vs. older sex and shame

27:25 The heart and sex split often true of the young

28:00 Lynn tells a story on herself, “I wish I was wetter…” (If we had been younger we might have been freaked out.)  Stories of men who can’t get erections.  Illusions and new sexuality.

32:00 There are other ways to be in the world than what we think is “normal” and “right”.

33:45 “Our hands and our feet are directly connected to our pleasure center in our brain.” Wake up your hands!  Add mouth to that mix and …wow!  Mark’s experience as a young man.

37:35 We freeze areas of our body, block areas, where we don’t want to feel.  Relearning!

39:00  Lynn describes her methods of body, core, and bioenergetic healing.  How to open the body up.  Both individual and couple as well as group work

43:30 Does this work online?

46:00 Multi media approach

47:50 How to reach her (>lynn kreaden.com> or ) and customs south of the Alps, misconceptions of Europe in America.

50:00 Stories about Mark and Heidi and Lynn’s comments

52:00 Pilates and posture: Shoulders down, protecting the heart.  Try conscious looking!

54:30 Invitation to the after show chat on Facebook group Masterminding Integral Ageing, Thank you’s and good bye’s

LynnKreaden   has developed a unique somatic approach to healing, growth, and life change. In her work, she guides clients to renewed aliveness and vitality in their careers, relationships, and health—through practical explorations of sensual pleasure, open-hearted connection, and authentic expression of their personal gifts.

Lynn is a graduate of the Barbara Brennan School of Healing and a senior faculty member of the Institute of Core Energetics. She is the founder of Lifeworks NY, a holistic, body-integrative center, and has a private practice in NYC where she works with individuals, couples, and groups. She also has extensive healing experience with survivors of sexual abuse and trauma and those facing chronic illness.

Lynn offers experiential workshops and professional training internationally, on intuition and energy healing, deep relating, embodied sexuality, and authentic pleasure.

Her passion is helping people remember and live the deliciousness of their being at every level, in all aspects of their lives.

For more information, visit www.lynnkreaden.com.

After show chat with Lynn and Marjorie

0:00  Intro: A “juicy conversation”

1:18 Marjorie enters the room – the “How-are-yous”

2:40 Marjories take-away of the main show: “Knowing that there is a person who is addressing these important topics”

3:10 “We think we know it all” – the change of life in later years (Mark)

5:15 prolonged life span –

5:55 Lynn joins the chat some technicalities, other person tries to come in.

7:30 Few people talk about “senior-sexuality”, parents are not supposed to have sex…… Mark tells the story of his mother in the nursing home having a boyfriend

9:43 Lynn talks about her experience with younger people: they have different types of relationships. What is the “stuff” which they don’t have as we had? Lynn explains, no labels, super-fluid…, not much difference between men and women in the group she is working with.

13:52 What are the challenges for the young people?-  Relationship aspects – because they use technology from birth on.

15:34 Marjorie: Do the younger people have any concept about what is happening in the world, like climate change: activist in early age, very awake. Shared economy etc.

17:15  The old ways are dying out.  – “OUR generation has to die out” in the face of what is happening just now (“old white men”)

19:05 Creativity and a fresh you on life – completely different from what we know. It is about connection, not about power

20:15 Thinking in terms of history, the planet? The different worries

21:10 America versus Holland (and Italy) concerning waste and renewable energies. A reminder of our goals in the 60ies – then we became “yuppies”. But if it hadn’t been for us then…

22:22 Marjorie talks about her community in North Carolina: Lynn’s experience might not be representative of the young people all over the country! Lynn expresses her shock about America, being Canadian

23:49 Some women of color are running in politics – Marjorie: the young people Lynn is talking about might need to learn to integrate the other young people

25:15   The “bathroom thing” in North Carolina. Will these young people be able to bring forth change? Lynn is excited about “these kids”

26:33 Mark talks about Wisconsin: people think they understand what is wrong – and go to the right.

27:15 Heidi asks about what we can do to help people to open up their minds and have a more comprehensive view. She talks about her “awakening” to reality in terms of the huge amount of horrible things which happen, like fracking, bullying, denying etc.) Falling into chaos, state of shock.

28:25 Why (some) women have voted for Trump – because he will blow up the system. Consequences for years…. Both parties are going to be different

29:40  “I cannot stay worried. What can I do TODAY to effect some change?” – move back to Canada? A solution?

30:40 Lynn leaves the conversation – off topic talk, also as a contribution to talk in public and show up for what we stand for.

31:52 Marjorie lives in the “Bible Belt” – how can you manage to live there? Online and a small local group. Input in an interfaith community.

33:12 In ways to evolve we need to accept people where they are, otherwise it could go into a kind of civil war. “ Love them”

34:00 separation and hate and disconnect – is not helpful, our perception of things might not be the right one, even if everything we know for ourselves tells us,. Telling the others that they are WRONG leads nowhere. If we were in charge???

35:30 What Marjorie does to manage their family relations: Agree to disagree – which is not always easy to do. And go on with LIFE (with the elephant in the room). Relate to each other as people and what we have in common. Be with the other position and really LISTEN to the other.

37:30 “When I am right, I AM RIGHT” – position.

37:50 When 2 brothers are high ranking in politics – in the opposite parties: an example to be.

LynnKreaden   has developed a unique somatic approach to healing, growth, and life change. In her work, she guides clients to renewed aliveness and vitality in their careers, relationships, and health—through practical explorations of sensual pleasure, open-hearted connection, and authentic expression of their personal gifts.

Lynn is a graduate of the Barbara Brennan School of Healing and a senior faculty member of the Institute of Core Energetics. She is the founder of Lifeworks NY, a holistic, body-integrative center, and has a private practice in NYC where she works with individuals, couples, and groups. She also has extensive healing experience with survivors of sexual abuse and trauma and those facing chronic illness.

Lynn offers experiential workshops and professional training internationally, on intuition and energy healing, deep relating, embodied sexuality, and authentic pleasure.

Her passion is helping people remember and live the deliciousness of their being at every level, in all aspects of their lives.

For more information, visit www.lynnkreaden.com.