February 10th at 10 AM PT/ 7 PM CET

Age is a state of mind   with Connie Corley


Connie Corley is the go-to person when it comes to questions about getting older. She engages actively with making the life of older people better since the time when she was not yet “old”

portrait of Connie Corley

STREAMED LIVE HERE on February 10th 2017

Age is a state of mind - Connie Corley

00:00 introductions and mechanics

04:20 Echo! And onward  reference to for Connie’s program and on radio “Experience Talks!on KPFP in LA or experience

06:16 Connie “reports” on a conference from a week before where the AARP and the motion picture industry joined forces to help older people with loneliness

08:40  Do we just tell ourselves we’re OK alone, or not.  Mark and Heidi tell short tales from their past.

10:10 Connie’s adaptation of the “4 Aces” model

12:12 Activism!

14:08 “Age is a state of mind.”  the visit to the cardio ward

16:10 The Senior Moment phrase, replace with Senior Momentum!

17:14 Internalized stereotypes of ageing and attitude

19:10 Acknowledging watchers

21:40 Feelings about “anti-ageing” concepts and vocabulary

23:07 Mark exhibits symptoms of age by his absence!  (Full disclosure here!) Then back to looking one’s age, shying away from older people, isolating them

25:30 Connie’s project: Cruzando Puentes (Crossing Bridges) very interesting interaction between older and younger people.

27:30 A summer conference of IAGG-2017 (international Association of Gerontology and Geriatrics in San Francisco July 24-26.  Connie is promoting and participating in a drumming experiment.  Heidi goes on to extol the virtues of music and singing. There’s more to us than what we simply “think”.

32:15 Whatever you thinking about now will affect how you feel next! Connie promotes silence and meditation. Older adults is the “preferred “ term in gerontology. Imagined effects of various terms. “The richness of paradox”

40:35 More terms: being a “kid” – second adolescence, etc.  It goes on!

41:45 More watcher input on terms; “seniors” is ever less popular

45:10 Changing demographics and what they portend.  What shall we do?

46:50 Connie’s vision for older people, some self-imposed limitations

49:45 Final thoughts, thank you’,s goodbye’s and invitations to the “aftershow” on our Facebook show on our Masterminding Integral Ageing page.


All throughout our lives age is a state of mind, not only when we arrive in older age. Think about it: when you were 10, 25, 40 or 65 – if you have been there already. What was your mindset? Did you think about the same things and in the same way? I bet you didn’t.

But some beliefs and convictions might not have changed. What about the old hippie slogan: “Don’t trust anyone over 30”.  This is an AGEIST thought which expresses our collective belief that getting older is a bad thing. We need to avoid, ignore, reverse, but not accept it  as something which happens naturally.

When we talk about conscious ageing, we also talk about raising our consciousness to the many ways we talk about older people and also about ourselves getting older. When we are constantly in the state of mind which sees everything as black and white, when we choose to adopt negative ideas about ageing and our own experience, then the self-fulfilling prophesies may make us miserable ourselves in our own old age. If we instead train our mind to become curious about the changes which WILL occur, if we are willing to explore the new possibilities which are opening up for us, then older age becomes a journey very worth  traveling.


Dr. Corley is a Professor at Fielding Graduate University and California State University Los Angeles (and Associate Director of Lifelong Learning, Applied Gerontology Institute). She completed her graduate degrees at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. She holds certification from the Center for Mind-Body Medicine in Washington, DC and is adjunct faculty at Saybrook University. Dr. Corley’s 100+ publications and national/international presentations have spanned the fields of aging and the arts, geriatrics, rehabilitation, spirituality, and substance abuse. She has been a mentor in Geriatric Social Work Initiatives funded by the John A. Hartford Foundation, and also a mentor in the New Ventures in Leadership program of the American Society on Aging (ASA). She is a fellow of the Gerontological Society of America (GSA) and the Association for Gerontology in Higher Education (AGHE), Past President of the Association for Gerontology Education in Social Work (AGE-SW), a recipient of the AGE-SW Leadership Award, and in 2004 was the Inaugural recipient of the West Coast Gerontological Social Work Career Award from the Institute for Geriatric Social Work. Cal State LA named Dr. Corley a Distinguished Woman in 2008. She is in “Who’s Who in America” and “Who’s Who of American Women.”



0:20 Acknowledgement of the audience who commented on the main show and invitation to come on camera

1:00 Heidi shares her experience with the conversations

1:26 Connie comes in and shares her practices, dream processing and allowing the learning and growth

2:25 About multitasking – adaptive advantage when growing older.

3:15 Choosing better what is important

3:51 Connie talks about the conference call she needs to attend virtually in a committee meeting.

5:05 Invitation to come into the room – otherwise Connie would leave

5:25 Projects for a future conversation – about Arts? With John Fitzgerald? Virtual drum circle.

6:30 Some fun between us

7:18 Find the balance – Heidi attempts to summarize what she learnt during the talk

7:37 Mark shares his experience in bio-feedback. How it feels now and before in the show.

8:50 Heidi’s edition about “being quiet” – hint to “Women Matters” last episode about “Sensing and Silence” Using these Feminine Qualities in public discussions and business.

10:42 We need a different state of mind – Meditation

11:03 Mark’s experience with meditation – what is your state of mind?

12:03 Preview and  explanation of TIMESTAMPS

12:48 Heidi invites people to come out of shyness and to learn to show up in public