When intimate relationships end, usually everybody concerned goes through a period of drama and upheaval. Hate and meanness is expressed—even by people who seemed to be civilized and kind before. All of that has an impact on everybody around: the children, the family, and friends.
We accept this as “normal,” but does it really need to be so? The ending itself is not the problem, says Katherine Woodward Thomas, but rather how we deal with the end of a relationship. She has lined out beautifully how the end of a relationship can be the motor for growth and development for everybody concerned, and how the pain and suffering can be minimized and transformed into something completely new and beautiful: a new way of relating to others and of creating truly authentic relationships.