00:00 Introductions. Mechanics, timestamps, how to comment, etc.
06:20 Power is energy, and energy by itself is neutral. Women often identify with the powerless. How can we give a positive mastery to our power?
08:13 Spiritual self-management and the “dimming down” of womens’ and girls’ power so that a search begins to find a “sneaky” unconscious way of expressing power.
11:50 Women unconsciously blame others, but first find themselves to be victims.
13:13 What is empowerment? Then using it in a masculine or a feminine way!
15:30 Integrating both masculine and feminine in BOTH men and women: several examples
17:25 The need for balance, which can lead to optimal power, some examples: Gerda Lerner, the historian, vs Margaret Thatcher. (Angela Merkel is integrated but lacks a strong feeling of connectedness)
21:05 (Message from Jon Freeman: watch our first conversation with Jon HERE)) “What would we need for female leaders not to be “pretend” men (like the current UK PM?” More examples
24:27 Men and “exchange use” women and “value use”. Not selling food but feeding children!
28:20 The desire of all of us, both men and women, to become whole, but each sex starts from “primary” hormone bases until ages 40 or 50.
30:35 The “wisdom” hormone. The 3 goddesses: white, red and black plus the need for reconciliation between daughters, mothers and grandmothers. How women can sabotage efforts to reach balance.
32:55 Example from a workshop of male and female police, including high ranking where high ranking women stopped some really good ideas for including some feminine approaches.
34:32 The story of Solomon and Sophia in the Bible illustrating the role of steward: women know the directio but men know how to get there.
38:00 Both Heidi and Barbara say they “tried” to become men when younger. How that changed in Barbara’s life.
39:00 Barbara credits her facialis paralysis as her greatest teacher re: the need for balance and the need to listen to the stories we tell ourselves. Then tell ourselves another, more empowering, story.
43:40 Acknowledge the perpetrator within and forgive yourself. Mark relates this to his own history.
46:17 Another suggestion: Non-Violent Communication and how that works
49:30 Assagioli: I have a feeling but I am not that feeling. (See Heidi’s introduction to Assagoli’s ideas HERE)
51:40 Barbara’s current work in Communio with her two colleagues. She explains the need for a mental/logical approach to find the right words to the feminine principle. She also works with men and regrets the lack of rituals – and knowledge that there are passages to commemorate in our lives.
57:00 “The post modern society has kicked out rituals…” which are messages to our souls. The language of our souls.
58:30: Martin Ucik in a message asks a big question which Barbara tackles anyway. She notes the interplay between changes in society and regulations that promote changes.
1:02:10 Wrapping up, Mark’s take away and barbara’ s comment on that for another talk. Heidi calls also for balance and a need to look at mens’ problems. Which prompts a response to cooperation and balance from Barbara. Stuff for another show!