Who knows me deeply?

Heidi writes

Who knows you really well?

Did it ever happen to you that you thought to know someone well and then you realised that you didn’t know them at all?

I guess many of maritaL problems come out of the illusion of knowing the other well, the same goes for family members and friendships. While being in contact or even living together, we create an idea, an imagination of who the other is. Then comes a critical moment and we feel upset and betrayed by finding out that the other doesn’t actually correspond to our preconceived image of him.

How come?

I believe that all these complications come out of a profound lack of transparency. We haven’t been encouraged at all to get to know ourselves deeply, and we haven’t learned to communicate with others genuinely, letting them know what we feel and what we need, neither generally, nor in the specific situation. We haven’t learned tools for connection, but we have been encouraged to separation, to draw back in difficult moments and to find fault and the responsibility in others. We haven’t learned to listen to ourselves, we haven’t learned to see others how they really are. 

We have learned to idealise ourselves and others, and also the reality of our world. We are reluctant to look into our own face and we try to avoid to see the reality around us as it is, as opposed to how we like it to be.

Trying to get near the truth needs courage, effort and decisiveness. We can practice the recognition of who we are by spiritual and psychological practice. Knowing oneself better allows us to also know others better and to become able to master the inevitable conflicts in everyday life.

The Women of Women matters came together this time to share their thoughts and experience. Who knows them deeply? To whom do they open enough to allow them to see the inner reality, their shadow sides as well as the good ones?

This conversation might inspire you to think about this topic yourself, too. The question might come up: Do I really want to be seen? What do I hide, consciously or unconsciously? What does it serve me when hiding? What benefit could I have when I courageously opened myself to trustworthy people around me?

Enjoy the inquiry

OUR PRESENT TEAM