Couples can grow together? Really?
What is your experience? Did you stay together to do the necessary work or did you separate because of falling prey to one of the two fantasies: “I picked the wrong person”, or “other people get to live in safety and attraction”. I imagine that you have some familiarity with those times when the attraction to your partner and the dreams about this unbridled happy future gets lost and you think, you don’t love your partner anymore and you better chose another – only to fall into the same trap, probably.
Dr. Tom Habib is studying the development of couples within an integral framework. Living in an intimate couple is a perfect way to grow oneself and to create ever more important and loving relationships. He has found 5 stages through which couples can go, and it isn’t always obvious why the progression from stage 1 to 2 should be a positive development as people have lost what they initially believed to be love. But following the whole developmental chain makes it more than clear that, climbing up the ladder, true love and deep connection arise between the partners and at the same time they grow individually into higher stages of their own development.
Watch the video, where Tom Habib presents his finding at the Integral European Conference in Hungary in May 2018. In preparation or completion watch a conversation we had with Tom in The Wisdom FActory HERE. There you can also find (and download) the charts which accompany the topic, as well as the scientific papers.
Instead of being a place of quarrel and dissatisfaction, intimate couples can become curious and courageous for taking the next steps on the way to “spiritual love”, the highest stage reachable at the moment according to Tom Habib.